A Sad Post

[Effortlessdepths]

I am going through a sad time right now, sad being a tremendous understatement. My wife of 10 years has given up on us, and I am beside myself.

Literally every bowl of tobacco tastes like shite, without exception. Even Windjammer. I guess I shouldn't be surprised, but has anyone ever experienced anything like this?

 

[depriest1022]

It’s not the tobacco. It is your state of mind. Sorry, dude. Praying for you.

 

[anotherbob]

wait not sure if you mean she's gone or she left.

 

[captainsousie]

I cannot imagine your pain. When I try it brings me to depths that I cannot enter. You have my condolences.

 

[Effortlessdepths]

wait not sure if you mean she's gone or she left.

She left

 

[Jacob74]

It will probably take some time to adjust to the new normal in your life. Do you have people you can trust in your life that can come along side you and be your friend during this time?

 

[newportpipe]

Stay positive; there are brighter days ahead.

 

[anotherbob]

She left

well that totally sucks. I personally would say to keep in mind that it also means there is opportunity to meet someone you get along with better. Still sucks not saying it doesn't, but don't forget life moves on and this too passes.

 

[autumnfog]

You will get over it, even if it doesn't feel likely at the moment.

 

[eljimmy]

Time heals

 

[lochinvar]

Not knowing your exact situation, I've been right there, almost the exact time length too. It hurt so much inside it physically hurt. And every second of pain and misery was worth it for what I have now. I have a wife that cares about me, and children I love more than breathing. People deserve to be with someone who cares enough at least to not take the walk. Keep moving forward, do things that make you happy, and let time work.I hope it gets better soon for you.

 

[Charlie718]

Sorry your going through this man. Life works in crazy ways, when one door closes another opens. Don’t let something like tobac get you down, your taste will come back when your feeling better. Just think of it as time to let your tobac age a little.

 

[karam]

Sorry to hear that man. No need to worry about tobacco, it will come back, thankfully I'm great with my wife, but bad breakups when I was younger and softer which brought me where nothing tasted like anything, even trying to binge on my favourite foods to drown the pain made me want to puke on the first bite.

You'll be fine in time, likely much better, it's all life experience.

 

[Chasing Embers]

Be strong and move on. Time doesn't heal, it just weakens the blow. Twenty-six years ago my first wife ended her life after six months of marriage and it's something I've yet to and will likely never get over. I found a like minded woman years later to start a family with but it's less marriage and more like good friends. Sometimes you just have to put the pieces back together as best as they will fit and press forward.

 

[JOHN72]

I send you a lot of strength and courage. I'm very sorry, friend..................

 

[Effortlessdepths]

I cannot imagine your pain. When I try it brings me to depths that I cannot enter. You have my condolences.

I am sorry

 

[Effortlessdepths]

It will probably take some time to adjust to the new normal in your life. Do you have people you can trust in your life that can come along side you and be your friend during this time?

Yes. Things could be worse, but our tale is long and complex. We were on the precipice of actually breaking through our problems together, but only a moment too late. This is not an exaggeration or wishful thinking. That's why it's so hard. We were so close.

 

[seagullplayer]

One day at a time.

 

[chopper]

Life sucks . . . then . . . this too shall pass.

Sorry you're going through this.

My sons mother walked out when I was told I needed a spinal fusion.
At the time my son hadn't yet turned 1yo.
My back was so rooted that I could barely walk. I was in agony.

Then I went through Hell.
Basically I married a real bitch. The things she did to me; I couldn't believe that someone I loved and had looked after "better than any one ever" [Her words] was like a sledgehammer blow to the guts.
Couldn't believe it was happening.

It's a very lonely time because one can't share the pain. No one can make one 'feel better'.
Despite the tv ads telling men to "reach out", no one wants to see a grown man depressed.

If you need to talk to someone then seek out a good counsellor.
In the meantime, you just have to ride it out man. You're in a storm.

Then, this too shall pass.
You'll be fine in the long run.

 

[mso489]

Don't be afraid to talk to someone, a pro. Clergy if that's your culture. Depression can be dangerous. I'm not one for "analysis." But about fifteen years ago, everything went to hell. I'd lost my wife to an illness. The first major dust-up at my job caused endless disruption. A person I was eventually dating had dumped me. So I just went in for inspection and maintenance, like checking the air in your tires or your the oil in your car. I felt like I was doing okay, but I wanted to hear some else with some objectivity tell me that. I did a few sessions, and usefully sorted things out with myself, and felt it was entirely worthwhile, though I was amused by the cardboard box full of puppets the guy had in his office for patients who were kids. I always wanted to grab two and do a puppet show. Then he would have wanted to schedule a weekly session.