There seems to be more people here than I thought who would love to define my relationship dynamics for me. I smoke outside. I have since the late 90s when I enlisted and smoking was banned indoors in gov't buildings. I developed that habit. Since then I've been in houses where people smoke inside, and it always shows.
Between my personal preference of not having tobacco smoke in the house, respect for my wife (not fear or being henpecked), the 2 children I have still in grade school, and the fact that all 5 of them have been in a house fire leaving their lungs at 55-70% (but getting better year after year), yes I smoke outside even on days I'd rather be inside. Or at least so I thought. I learn much here. And today I learned that respect I had for my family is actually fear or some kind of bad sitcom level of henpecked. Personally, I can't wait to see how I live up to other people's ideals the next topic of my family, my house, my habits, my preferences come up.