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Lifer
May 26, 2012
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If you are uneducated the best place to make money is in sales. You have to have a certain personality, you have to let rejection roll off your back and you have to understand that Buyers are Liars.

Some people have it in them to be great salesman who understand the harder you work, the luckier you get. Then there are the lazy bums who can't sell shit and you dump them. It is also up to a manager to train killer sales people. The guy who trained me in the car business, was an idiot I made him look like a fool and he was fired. My first Washington Birthday sale in the car business( it is the biggest day of the year and don't ask me wny.


I trained one week looking at brochures learning the guts of the cars. I come down stairs approached and older gentleman and sold him a car. That blew people away that my first customer I sold. Later the week was Washingtons birthday. My first time with the sale and I sold 7 cars, second place was 3 and was considered good. The managers, owner, everyone asked me how I did it. I just told them I am the best sales man they had ever seen and by April I was the number one sales man at a huge Dodge store. I would not work a store that didn't have trucks and used cars. Plows, Rack trucks Box truck all good money makers. What know one figured out was I was writing my own deals and never letting a manager near my customer.

My previous job was a mfg rep in the jewelry industry and I was used to working my own deals.

The lesson from this is that I was the hardest worker. I didn't do split shifts. I went bell to bell which was 9am-9pm. Saturday was 9am -6pm and Sunday was 12-5.

I rarely took time off as I had expensive habits and I needed lots of money. I had nice suits and ties and shoes and jewelry. Those were fun days and I made serious coin for those times. Anyone can make a good life if they are willing to do the work, pay attention and learn how to read people, you to can have success in sales.
 

brian64

Lifer
Jan 31, 2011
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What would you say if a 30 year old asked you "General life advice please and thank you"
If you're 30 or younger you're facing several more decades on this planet (if you live that long)...so in terms of broad, general advice I'd just say work on keeping your heart right with God...follow your conscience, not the crowd.

Stay out of debt and become as self sufficient as possible.

If you live in a large city, move away from it as soon as you can.
 

warren

Lifer
Sep 13, 2013
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Foothills of the Chugach Range, AK
Learn critical thinking while young and apply it often. This is especially true when seeking advice from people you don't know on the internet.

Actions have consequences.

Invest only the moneys you can afford to lose. And, invest widely, for the long term. Rather than go to a casino . . . just mail them a check now and then and bank/invest what you would have spent on travel and hotels.

If you must waste moneys, take up smoking. At least then you can watch your moneys burn, smoke wafting upwards and a little something for the brain to enjoy, nicotine.

Guys should always marry "up." Usually a extremely easy goal to reach.

One can learn through the internet. But, only through long hours, a discerning mind and with lots of "critical thinking" so as to recognize the "bull shit." There is a of of BS on the net.

Maybe more to follow as my education is ever continuing.
 

BriarLinedMeer

Starting to Get Obsessed
Dec 15, 2020
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New Zealand
Learn critical thinking while young and apply it often. This is especially true when seeking advice from people you don't know on the internet.

Actions have consequences.

Invest only the moneys you can afford to lose. And, invest widely, for the long term. Rather than go to a casino . . . just mail them a check now and then and bank/invest what you would have spent on travel and hotels.

If you must waste moneys, take up smoking. At least then you can watch your moneys burn, smoke wafting upwards and a little something for the brain to enjoy, nicotine.

Guys should always marry "up." Usually a extremely easy goal to reach.

One can learn through the internet. But, only through long hours, a discerning mind and with lots of "critical thinking" so as to recognize the "bull shit." There is a of of BS on the net.

Maybe more to follow as my education is ever continuing.
By 'up' do you mean she's a higher social status, wealthier or just plain nicer looking than most?
 

BriarLinedMeer

Starting to Get Obsessed
Dec 15, 2020
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New Zealand
One last one, until the next last one. Learn to spell the word "fella", which I assume is what you meant, since you are clearly not an audio amp, a Germanic goddess, or an Arabic version of the Barbie doll.
It's how we spell in in NZ, I've never seen it spelt another way, and 'fulla' is how we would say it down here too now come to think of it.
 
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BriarLinedMeer

Starting to Get Obsessed
Dec 15, 2020
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New Zealand
Here's my advice on the subject... Have a really good reason to get married. Don't just jump into it because of family pressure or to follow your friends. I dated my wife for 9 years before we decided to buy a house, and that was our reason to get married. If we had not been married, we would have had to get a lawyer and treat the house like a business venture, but being married was the first real reason to get married we came across.
Kids... I have five plus a foster, and I love them all... but, have a good reason to bring kids into this world also. There is no financial pay out for the huge expense these boogers are. Really, really think about this, because once they're here, your stuck with them, and they ain't cheap.
Already there mate, we've been together 7 years before a home, now children end of next year which I was very eager on but with how crap things are I'm starting to think I probably shouldn't have them at all.


I'm very worried that I'll end up having to apologise to them every 5 min for bringing them into a place that's getting worse by the minute.

I won't even read the news anymore, its just plain bloody horrible.
 

warren

Lifer
Sep 13, 2013
11,960
17,137
Foothills of the Chugach Range, AK
By 'up' do you mean she's a higher social status, wealthier or just plain nicer looking than most?
Smarter and much, much, more mature. Males generally remain "doofusses" for life unless married.:rolleyes: This is an inarguable observation in my opinion.

I won't even read the news anymore, its just plain bloody horrible.
You're not believing everything you read, are you?
 
Jan 28, 2018
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Sarasota, FL
Avoid debt. Never purchase a car unless you can pay cash. Never, ever have credit card debt.

Don’t get married unless you meet your soul mate and best friend. Even then, proceed cautiously.

Nothing in excess, practice moderation in most everything.

Be frugal but not cheap. Enjoy life, love each day as if it may be your last but within moderation and control.

Try to be a blessing to other people every opportunity you find. The joy from that will be fantastic and the blessings you’ll receive back will be ten fold.
 
now children end of next year
Before I had kids with my first wife, my dad was all, "kids will take care of you when you are older," which is total bullshit. With the way wages are dropping and inflation is rising, I will probably have them all moving back in soon... which would be fine by me.
But, the world and jobs just aren't the way they were in the 80's, and not even close to the way they were in the 50's.
 
Jul 26, 2021
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Good luck doesn't exist, but can be replaced with hard work. Pay your dues with hard work and doors will open, but you aren't entitled to anything.

Personally, don't lie, cheat, or steal and fix any wrong you cause. Ask for help or guidance before the ship sinks and get out in front of any issue no matter how much you don't want to.

Don't react. Respond after gathering all information possible. Being calm and saying as little as possible provides leverage as knowledge is power and others tend to fill the silence with nuggets of information.

Professionally, your reputation is priceless so don't throw it away over any one decision (it gives you the benefit of doubt if you're a straight shooter).
 

Chasing Embers

Captain of the Black Frigate
Nov 12, 2014
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Avoid marriage, it's a legal, emotional, and financial liability.

Save as much money as you can. Live below your means when possible.

Go back to school and get multiple degrees for fall back plans.

Question all that you read or hear, there are multiple sides to everything.

Don't ask for life decisions from pipe smokers.
 

CostalKid

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Aug 10, 2022
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My advice would be to read the rules of a forum early on, esp. Rule 9! :)

I thoroughly enjoy hearing older people talk and give advice, with only one grandparent left, its got me thinking.

Pipe smokers tend to be more contemplative than most.

And they tend to be an older demographic, thus more experience.

What would you say if a 30 year old asked you "General life advice please and thank you"
Bed a lot of women.
 
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