This all reminds me of a guy who was sort of a lounge king at The Briary when I first started hanging out there. I wasn't there when he started, but from folks that were, he started off as a normal customer, getting his first pipe and smoking a bowl in the lounge. Then one time he came, he bought some very expensive Formers, Castellos, then he started bringing expensive bottles of whisky, bourbon, or some such $40-60 alcohols (I am alcohol ignorant, believe it or not, I'm sober, ha ha) to shower the room with gifts, and hold court. He quickly became the lounge favorite, buying expensive pipes, tobaccos, handmade racks, humidors, boxes of expensive cigars and sharing them. This is where I came in. He had been the lounge king for about a year. Everyone just told me that he was some bigshot lawyer.
Now, some folks feel compelled to be the winner, the richest, the most generous to a fault, impressive, successful, etc... It's just in their natures. Win, win, win... They come on here (the forum) and see folks with cellars, and they may feel compelled to accept a few of those many credit card offers we get in the mail and stock up like Peck, Harris, etc... I think this guy was like that.
One day, the lounge king's daughter came into the Briary with boxes of stuff, the pipes, racks, etc... she said that her dad had been an unemployed truck driver and was living on disability (or some other form of fixed income) for two years. We all were floored. He had been wearing brand new $1000 suits, $100-200 ties, etc... He was in the hospital with a breakdown, and could we help out by buying back some of this stuff, so that her dad could start getting back on his feet.
No one forced him to buy any of that stuff. We don't set around and brag about our $5000 pipes. Heck, I don't even own a pipe in the class that he had started collecting. But, being in a store that had them, may have set him off... maybe.
But, in wanting to be the biggest, best, most successful, he jumped straight to the finish line without playing the game.
I have also felt in that situation. I dropped by a new foreign motorcycle store a few years ago. The salesman threw a set of keys at me to test drive some Triumph motorcycle that costs more than all of my cars combined. It's like you have to force the words out that you are too much of a loser to even test drive something like that. I couldn't believe they wanted me to test drive it. I just wanted to see what a foreign bike looked like. I wasn't there to buy.
I've also had Skip hand me off to Dunhill salesmen that were visiting the Briary, and I get into these conversations like I am being sold a $1200 pipe. A plain old Dunhill at that. And, in the midst of conversation I realize that I don't even have enough at that moment to be listening to this.
It is in these points in life that you have to muster up enough enough character to just be who you are, own it, and tell them that "I am not the customer for these types of things."
I can see where hanging out in a forum with guys showing off pictures of their cellars would start to work a person down.
"I can't afford to buy $100 a month in tobaccos... where is that credit card offer that came in the mail?"
This could be a very bad thing. But, I am not going to put men down who buy Triumph motorcycles, Former or Dunhill pipes, or wear custom tailored suits. It's just not for me.
Bashing it, or faking it and putting yourself in a financial mess are the two low character roads, IMO. Just be glad for the guys who can and do, and enjoy being yourself. Be damned proud of yourself, which doesn't involve being flippant to those who are not.
On the other hand, I may not ever be able to buy a Porsche or Triumph, but if I save up for long enough, I can have me the Triumph of pipes. I do own a few Beckers, since I don't buy a bunch of cheap pipes, I can buy one pipe a year after saving up all year. It is my one luxury I allow myself. In my race to build up a rotation that I think many of us go though, I did buy bunches of cheap estates. But, I'd rather have that one or four fantastic (to my eye) pipes than bunches of cheap pipes that I could care less about. But, that's just me.
I can also afford to buy my budgeted allotment of tobaccos each month. I am no Peck or Harris. I am on the threshold of retirement and fixed income living myself. So, I am grateful that I could stow back what I have, and the "plus" is that it's aged a bit, and will continue to do so.
But, if you are the working man, one Dr Grabow or one cob smoker who just buys what he needs, your perspective is welcome here also. Nothing wrong with that. In fact some of my favorite forum members are cob and codger smokers. My favorite person to set down with in town and smoke is the Fire Chief who smokes PA in a Grabow all day long. He knows more about how to smoke that one pipe, than I will ever know about any of the pipes in my rack. His words are usually solid gold to me. Valuable stuff that any newbie or experienced smoker could benefit from.
Just my $0.02