Male Socializing/Outlets/Clubs/Etc.

[trouttimes]

I have 3 sons who still live under my roof, so i don't really need any more "male bonding outlets". We shoot together, hunt together, and the oldest one has just started smoking now that he's 20. That being said, I am working on a Catholic men's smoking group that discusses theology and Chesterton on the side...

Raise them right!

 

[BriarBrook]

Big Chesterton fan here, though not Catholic.

Chesterton fan... Tolkien fan... not Catholic?

 

[Andre_T]

This is a weird message to write and post as I'm not much of an outgoing or "open book" type of person. I am a (male) librarian and work with a staff that is overwhelmingly female. I live with my significant other and we have no children. My male friends that I had when I was younger have moved out of state. I reach out to groups like this forum in part for the "male camaraderie" as much as the pipe and tobacco information I'm assuming.

What do others do to have something that resembles "guy time" in their lives? Groups of existing friends? Bowling and golf leagues? Is anyone an Elk, Moose, or Mason? Have those groups become "family" organizations? Even trying to hang out at the local brewery - it's family game time whenever I go in. Anyway, just throwing this out there to hear some thoughts.

As a husband of a librarian I can understand your plight while not suffering from it. You would need to commit quite a bit of time I would suggest being a volunteer firefighter. I've been one for more then 20 years. There are some women but the vast majority are men. I hope this helps.

 

[BriarBrook]

This is a weird message to write and post as I'm not much of an outgoing or "open book" type of person. I am a (male) librarian and work with a staff that is overwhelmingly female. I live with my significant other and we have no children. My male friends that I had when I was younger have moved out of state. I reach out to groups like this forum in part for the "male camaraderie" as much as the pipe and tobacco information I'm assuming.

What do others do to have something that resembles "guy time" in their lives? Groups of existing friends? Bowling and golf leagues? Is anyone an Elk, Moose, or Mason? Have those groups become "family" organizations? Even trying to hang out at the local brewery - it's family game time whenever I go in. Anyway, just throwing this out there to hear some thoughts.

The answer would be in your username... GUNS!

 

[Al Gore Rhythm]

This is a weird message to write and post as I'm not much of an outgoing or "open book" type of person. I am a (male) librarian and work with a staff that is overwhelmingly female. I live with my significant other and we have no children. My male friends that I had when I was younger have moved out of state. I reach out to groups like this forum in part for the "male camaraderie" as much as the pipe and tobacco information I'm assuming.

What do others do to have something that resembles "guy time" in their lives? Groups of existing friends? Bowling and golf leagues? Is anyone an Elk, Moose, or Mason? Have those groups become "family" organizations? Even trying to hang out at the local brewery - it's family game time whenever I go in. Anyway, just throwing this out there to hear some thoughts.

Have you tried a bath house at all?

 

[Al Gore Rhythm]

Thank God I'm not social. Societal investigations never impressed me much due to many of them not including regional diet, environmental conditions, heredity, and career information. Add to the fact that over the past few years I've lost the majority of my faith in science.

Why is that?

 

[olkofri]

Culture, yes, but not era. It's the same era we are living in now: the post-Resurrection one, which is why everything he wrote to those Christians is still studied and applied by all Christians now. Or ignored.

Indeed. What was bad back then is still bad now. Good and evil do not change with the times, but it's a work of evil to make people believe they do. Ergo... our milieu.

 

[Chasing Embers]

Why is that?

Too many claiming incontestable fact of science being the fact when science is an ever growing means to a fact not the answer itself. Anything beyond that is banned from forum discussion.

 

[mso489]

Women seem to be much better at bonding with each other than men are with men, individually or in groups. Women are more verbal, and more accustomed to finding friends and groups. However, they can also be fiercely political, and it requires a lot for them to find a good friend or a good group of friends.

Men aren't going to bond over conversation per se, even if they have a lot in common. They might talk for hours on first meeting, just because they are there, but never get in touch afterwards. That's very usual behavior for us. It's a common activity that encourages men to bond -- over pipes, or automobiles, or work, or golf or whatever.

Of course, individuals are widely various, so you can't put us all in a bag by gender. There are introverts and extroverts, and hermits and politicians, and the manic and the monastic. So you have to take people one at a time.

 

[puff_not_snuff]

Not challenging, but undesirable. Science has a name for it, the Sigma personality type.

Sigma Freud?

 

[puff_not_snuff]

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If that guy met my family he would be in the kitchen with his head in the oven.

 

[Hovannes]

Consider taking your business to male operated establishments.

Lose the athletic shoes and find a real shoeshine stand run by a shoeshine guy to patronize.
Have your hair cut by a male barber in a real barbershop.
Have your car serviced by an independent shop run by a mechanic and his son and wait for the work to be done.
Go to a small hardware store that actually gives advice on how to fix things correctly---real hardware store clerks love problem solving.