I Am Going To Be A Father!

[OneGoodBulldog]

Sunday afternoon I got a text from an ex girlfriend informing me that against all odds (trying for seven years, medical impossibility type odds) she is pregnant with a boy. We broke up because I wanted kids of my own, but she couldn't have any. There were some other factors but that was the main one. Didn't want to let it get too far if we couldn't have children together, but here we are!

She is confined to bed rest so this week sometime I'll be moving in with her and her daughter. She asked if we were going to be a family or "co parent". I said I don't know what co parenting is and we're not going to even try! The true measure of a man is his ability and willingness to support a family, and I'm more than ready to try my hand at the task. Not like I've been secretly wanting kids for the last 20 years or anything...

It's not all roses however, due to the nature of the pregnancy we won't be out of the woods until he is born basically. The doctors put a five month window on it saying that after then things would be better, but I'm just going to pray for the duration of the ordeal. Just in case!

Anyway, there it is! OneGoodBulldog is going to be a Dad. If I start complaining more and talking about how things were in my day, well now you know why!

 

[hoosierpipeguy]

Seems rather complicated. Regardless, congratulations and best wishes for the health of your GF and Child.

 

[DangerStranger]

Hey man crongrats and apologies for being cynical. But, definitely get a DNA test my dude.

 

[Chasing Embers]

definitely get a DNA test my dude

+1000

 

[OneGoodBulldog]

+1000

Hey man crongrats and apologies for being cynical. But, definitely get a DNA test my dude.

One of the benefits of having standards I suppose. I don't keep company with loose women. I also ninja edit my spelling mistakes before anyone can quote me.

 

[Chasing Embers]

One of the benefits of having standards I suppose. I don't keep company with loose women. I also ninja edit my spelling mistakes before anyone can quote me.

No standards or lack thereof implied. If child support, medical issues, or legal implications ensue it's good to have all bases covered for both you and the child.

 

[hauntedmyst]

No standards or lack thereof implied. If child support, medical issues, or legal implications ensue it's good to have all bases covered for both you and the child.

Congratulations! And I agree with the above. If you think the measure of a man is his ability and willingness to support a family, that is a great thing. Understand though that measure is far greater for the one who some how discovers he's supporting a family he has discovered is not his own.

 

[DangerStranger]

...I don't keep company with loose women.

Maybe the other guy does... Seriously though; you state that she has a daughter. So your definition is different than mine.

I also ninja edit my spelling mistakes before anyone can quote me.

Nah, just added a word. Not an ninja, more of a ronin.


Although not a fan I think Kanye has a point.
"Eighteen years, eighteen years
She got one of your kids, got you for eighteen years"

 

[OneGoodBulldog]

Maybe the other guy does... Seriously though; you state that she has a daughter. So your definition is different than mine.

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Nah, just added a word. Not an ninja, more of a ronin.


Although not a fan I think Kanye has a point.
"Eighteen years, eighteen years
She got one of your kids, got you for eighteen years"

I think your experiences with women have been much different than mine...

Hope you can turn things around though.

 

[OneGoodBulldog]

Congratulations! And I agree with the above. If you think the measure of a man is his ability and willingness to support a family, that is a great thing. Understand though that measure is far greater for the one who some how discovers he's supporting a family he has discovered is not his own.

I think it speaks more to the state of our era when a guy shares some good news and the first thing anyone can think is "oh she must have been cheating". Honestly, if that's how people feel that's not my problem. I bet a good number of forum members weren't exactly born "legitimately". I know I wasn't.

 

[scloyd]

I agree with hoosier...sounds complicated. Congrats and best wishes, I hope everything works out for all of you.

 

[tbradsim1]

Need a DNA for peace of mind down the road.

 

[DangerStranger]

I think your experiences with women have been much different than mine...

Most certainly... and experience them I have.

Hope you can turn things around though.

No need. I have things under control.


I'll leave you with one last thought. "Eighteen years, eighteen years And on the 18th birthday, he found out it wasn't his?"

 

[STP]

No greater title than “daddy”. Congrats ?

 

[DangerStranger]

I think it speaks more to the state of our era when a guy shares some good news and the first thing anyone can think is "oh she must have been cheating". Honestly, if that's how people feel that's not my problem. I bet a good number of forum members weren't exactly born "legitimately". I know I wasn't.

I hear you. In all fairness though, it never crossed my mind that she cheated. You stated that she was an Ex and that you had tried to get pregnant for 7 years and that she has a daughter. Now, I'm no rocket surgeon, but...


maybe a bit ninja after all

 

[scloyd]

I think it speaks more to the state of our era when a guy shares some good news and the first thing anyone can think is "oh she must have been cheating".

If it's good news to you and you're happy...that's all that matters. Raise that child the best you can and don't worry about what anyone else thinks.

 

[LotusEater]

Seems rather complicated. Regardless, congratulations and best wishes for the health of your GF and Child.

What he said^^^
congrats

 

[BarrelProof]

Congratulations!

No unbecoming activities implied, I'm simply curious how she both has a child and it was deemed medically impossible that she could have a child. The biologist in me is perplexed. No need to share details, just stating that the situation has piqued my interest.

At any rate, good luck to mom and son. Sounds like a tough road ahead, and I wish you all the best. Welcome to the fold!

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't jealous of you for unsuccessfully trying for seven years, however.

 

[OneGoodBulldog]

Congratulations! And I agree with the above. If you think the measure of a man is his ability and willingness to support a family, that is a great thing. Understand though that measure is far greater for the one who some how discovers he's supporting a family he has discovered is not his own.

I think it speaks more to the state of our era when a guy shares some good news and the first thing anyone can think is "oh she must have been cheating". Honestly, if that's how people feel that's not my problem. I bet a good number of forum members weren't exactly born "legitimately". I know I wasn't.

I hear you. In all fairness though, it never crossed my mind that she cheated. You stated that she was an Ex and that you had tried to get pregnant for 7 years and that she has a daughter. Now, I'm no rocket surgeon, but...


maybe a bit ninja after all

Perhaps when confused one should ask for clarification instead of quoting Kanye West on a pipe smokers forum?

We didn't date for seven years and try to have kids and suddenly boom, there's a kid. I'd explain the situation but quite frankly it's none of anyone's business. I just wanted to share some good news and you're acting like some shit-hot playa when it's infinitely more likely that you're typing from your Mom's basement because your custom scarf business fell through, again. Also, you still haven't corrected your spelling mistake there, Ninja.

 

[OneGoodBulldog]

Congratulations!

No unbecoming activities implied, I'm simply curious how she both has a child and it was deemed medically impossible that she could have a child. The biologist in me is perplexed. No need to share details, just stating that the situation has piqued my interest.

At any rate, good luck to mom and son. Sounds like a tough road ahead, and I wish you all the best. Welcome to the fold!

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't jealous of you for unsuccessfully trying for seven years, however.

Perhaps I've created some confusion which I will address with an edit to my original post.

Long story short on the medical front, she has some other complications that decreased her chances and I guess the other guy just didn't have the stuff for two! Maybe my swimmers just got that much better after I quit cigs and switched to a pipe? At any rate I'm going to perpetuate that myth.