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True. But telling her your are thinking of drinking heavily and using the Taliban Guide to a Happy Man Marriage as a road map for being a husband might just get them to shut their yapping pie holes!
I don't see anything wrong with alcohol, tobacco and firearms as long as that isn't what's written on the jackets of some guys who are beating my door down.
My wife thinks I look funny with a foreign object sticking out of my face, but she likes the smell of the smoke and I think she likes the way it keeps me calm. We are both very responsible with our bills, though and have always maintained separate accounts so little eccentricities like smoking a pipe are no big deal.
If I did something irresponsible like drop $10,000 on a new bike before paying off the car, it would probably hit the fan, but it's part of our duty as partners to warn the other when they are about to have an attack of the dumbass.
My wife thinks I look funny with a foreign object sticking out of my face, but she likes the smell of the smoke and I think she likes the way it keeps me calm. We are both very responsible with our bills, though and have always maintained separate accounts so little eccentricities like smoking a pipe are no big deal.
If I did something irresponsible like drop $10,000 on a new bike before paying off the car, it would probably hit the fan, but it's part of our duty as partners to warn the other when they are about to have an attack of the dumbass.
Well fellow members I took some very good advice and Spent some quality time with the Mrs. in regards to dinning and I surprised her with a day off at a beauty spa! Best $300 I ever spent!!!!!!!! Not only did she come home revived she actually picked out my next pipe to buy-a Peterson.
There ya go. You can catch more flies with honey than with Scotch. You earned that Peterson, brother.
I could tell you about the best $300 I ever spent, but might get banned from future posting :mrgreen:
Glad you straightened things out with the Mrs.
Glad you straightened things out with the Mrs.
Saying something funny is cheaper. Like honey I may smoke a pipe, but I'm not a cross dresser. Or I got that for you ........ I would bug you to death if I weren't smoking my pipe. Or there is no telling what juevenile thing I'd be doing .....its smoke my pipe or build an airplane in the garage.
I know I probably ought to just let this go . . .
But locopony's post goes to exactly the sort of thing that drives me slightly, erm, loco. (Locopony, I know you're mostly kidding and I'm not coming after YOU, just this notion.)
The idea of a husband acting like a naughty child trying to wheedle something out of a stern Mommy ("Aw gee shucks, you caught me. Sooorrry Mom. Pleeeaaase.") I think ultimately demeans the husband and degrades the quality of the marriage -- and in my experience puts the wife in the unwanted position of having an extra kid to deal with. (To say nothing of the fact that I've never met a woman who finds that sort of thing remotely attractive or appealing.)
A man should be the servant leader of his home, who cherishes, loves, honors, protects and respects his wife. She should honor, love and respect him as well. An exchange like the one loco describes is certainly common -- and certainly common fare for the popular media. But I think is bad for men, bad for women, bad for marriages and, heck, bad for America.
But locopony's post goes to exactly the sort of thing that drives me slightly, erm, loco. (Locopony, I know you're mostly kidding and I'm not coming after YOU, just this notion.)
The idea of a husband acting like a naughty child trying to wheedle something out of a stern Mommy ("Aw gee shucks, you caught me. Sooorrry Mom. Pleeeaaase.") I think ultimately demeans the husband and degrades the quality of the marriage -- and in my experience puts the wife in the unwanted position of having an extra kid to deal with. (To say nothing of the fact that I've never met a woman who finds that sort of thing remotely attractive or appealing.)
A man should be the servant leader of his home, who cherishes, loves, honors, protects and respects his wife. She should honor, love and respect him as well. An exchange like the one loco describes is certainly common -- and certainly common fare for the popular media. But I think is bad for men, bad for women, bad for marriages and, heck, bad for America.
You must not have read anything else I posted in this thread. It was a JOKE about the notion of bribing the wife (sarcasm) if you will. I have been married for 16 years now, and we have a happy marriage. You see here is a major problem. The wife doesn't respect our friend here or she wouldn't care if he bought some tobacco. The proof is the three hundred dollar bribe got him off the hook. Now it is also documented that using humor is the most effective way to settle unreasonable anger.
Are you one of the promise keepers? I have meet five or six of them. They talk like the thing you said. One of them the wife was cheating on him. Another landed in jail for the hot checks his wife forged his name on. Still yet another his wife left with no explanation. Still yet another ones wife talks bad about him to other men. And the last one caught his wife sex ting to a guy in another state. I have met no promise keeper who his wife has any respect for him.
Sometimes when my wife wants to be mad at me because she is being irrational. Yes I use the ole humor fall back she laughs and we go on happy ever after.
This is also not an attack I don't do that. Its just about clarity.
Are you one of the promise keepers? I have meet five or six of them. They talk like the thing you said. One of them the wife was cheating on him. Another landed in jail for the hot checks his wife forged his name on. Still yet another his wife left with no explanation. Still yet another ones wife talks bad about him to other men. And the last one caught his wife sex ting to a guy in another state. I have met no promise keeper who his wife has any respect for him.
Sometimes when my wife wants to be mad at me because she is being irrational. Yes I use the ole humor fall back she laughs and we go on happy ever after.
This is also not an attack I don't do that. Its just about clarity.
This thread has brought out some interesting stuff. Just remember we're here to enjoy ourselves, not save the world or fix other peoples faults.
Marriage is what it is.
If what you're doing works for you and your home, keep doing it.
Marriage is what it is.
If what you're doing works for you and your home, keep doing it.
Golly locopony, relax brother.
I knew you were kidding, that's why I said I knew you were kidding.
Since you asked: No, although I always keep my promises, I'm not a "Promise Keeper," just your basic Presbyterian.
I would not have thought the idea of maintaining mutual respect in a marriage would be controversial, but clearly I touched a nerve, and I apologize for that.
I knew you were kidding, that's why I said I knew you were kidding.
Since you asked: No, although I always keep my promises, I'm not a "Promise Keeper," just your basic Presbyterian.
I would not have thought the idea of maintaining mutual respect in a marriage would be controversial, but clearly I touched a nerve, and I apologize for that.
No apologies required as I took no offense and meant non as well. I should have been on a debate team because its very fun to me, (never makes me angry ). The sharpening of wits with wise and intellegent men is the pennacle fun like playing chess. Didn't mean to go over board.
I highly believe in mutual respect. To me that includes the idea of each person being able to say "Hey you are being irrational".(I use humor to do this with my wife so that she is able to see it rather than being rude or harsh). It requires love and respect to do it correctly.
Oh, by the way I have a problem with the promise keepers if you haven't noticed. It seems to teach men to give in to irrational requirements.
That being said; The wife has every right to say. "Hey your are being irrational", as well. Can you imagine how spoiled a person could get if every whim was kowtowed to.
My wife is a strong woman and I wouldn't want it anyother way. However like me, she can misunderstand me and go overboard. We both have to be able to draw a line somewhere or we would lose the stength that the other so respects, and the relationship would be ruined.
Now I am sure our friends wife does respect him. To bad our actions do not alway reflect the truth. He obviously loves her tremendously..... his actions show it. More power to them and may happiness abound.
I highly believe in mutual respect. To me that includes the idea of each person being able to say "Hey you are being irrational".(I use humor to do this with my wife so that she is able to see it rather than being rude or harsh). It requires love and respect to do it correctly.
Oh, by the way I have a problem with the promise keepers if you haven't noticed. It seems to teach men to give in to irrational requirements.
That being said; The wife has every right to say. "Hey your are being irrational", as well. Can you imagine how spoiled a person could get if every whim was kowtowed to.
My wife is a strong woman and I wouldn't want it anyother way. However like me, she can misunderstand me and go overboard. We both have to be able to draw a line somewhere or we would lose the stength that the other so respects, and the relationship would be ruined.
Now I am sure our friends wife does respect him. To bad our actions do not alway reflect the truth. He obviously loves her tremendously..... his actions show it. More power to them and may happiness abound.
Way I see it, It all worked out. She's back to being cool with his pipe obsession and she gets some pampering with the bonus of him looking all cool and romantic. If you came to my house, you might find me cleaning up or cooking dinner to make my wife happy (still having to be off to work later), but I know she's going to come home from her full-time job, do my laundry and iron my shirts so I don't look like hell at work. It's a partnership. Give and take. The ladies are just a little more vocal when things get out of balance. Once the pendulum is back in the center, it's all groovy.
Holly cats everyone, what a string of conversation. Just a little background info here, my wife and I have been married for 25 years and together for 32 years and yes it has been a 35 year climb for both of us with much respect and admiration for each other. But also, after all these years there are times when we still learn about each other and gain a new understanding of what we are together. The $300 was certainly not a bribe but a well overdue min-vacation for her that I failed to recognize her need for one. And yes that was the best $300 I have spent in a long time -it gave her time to regenerate and I learned a bib lesson-PAY ATTENTION(listen) more to her needs. Thanks folks!
So you failed to do your home work tisk tisk. We all do from time to time then we have to play make up. (Much more expensive then). There was no disrespect intended toward you. I think mostly just a chance to talk about things that are normally left alone. it was a good post and thread I think. Some nice debate and shared ideologies that allow us to learn more than what pipe or tobacco we like.
I am sorry if it got to personal toward you. I think people got more hung up on the subject matter. If ya haven't faced these same types of problem you haven't been married long. If you have then you know they are minor ones.
I am sorry if it got to personal toward you. I think people got more hung up on the subject matter. If ya haven't faced these same types of problem you haven't been married long. If you have then you know they are minor ones.
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