Codger or not, I'm not sure what to advise people starting out. The best advice I can. When young, I commuted my first two years of college, since my dad had another kid in college and another one coming along. Then I felt an intense compulsion to go off and make my way. I think I overdid independence in a sense. I was completely transient for about a decade, living nowhere near family and no place for much more than a year. I had friends, but all in passing, and no real relationships Kids who hole up with their folks may need a push, but I feel like I probably needed a little more anchor. It took me a long time to settle down after I settled down. You need other people, and you need to know that, and how to do that. I was a stray.