Is Having too Much Personality a Liability these Days?

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I mean in regards to work and such. I'm not talkin' bout making poo-poo jokes or such but I've learned over the last few years that having too much to talk about when others have very little, this is, when they are conversing with you it's best to just pretend that you don't have much to say and don't share some esoteric detail on any given subject. None of which I wish to speak about is at all political, just cultural things, food, and day to day blather. Kinda sucks to have to sanitize your personality but money is money I guess...
 
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I guess it all depends on your coworkers and how comfortable you feel sharing with them. I've become friends with some of mine and we hang out outside of the office. I've had heart to heart conversations with others.

That's a good point. I do mostly freelance work in the photo industry and whatnot so I guess it does depend on how well you know people but with that said I am often surprised how little people have to talk about these days once I get to know them.
 
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Companies have personalities. It's the employee's responsibility to "fit-in." Or, thay can make life miserable for themselves and those about them by being rebellious. It's a choice everyone with a job has to make. Fit in or not.

Chit-chat is an art form. Not everyone is good at it. I never had the time for such. Wasn't very good at either when forced to mingle.
 
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Companies have personalities. It's the employee's responsibility to "fit-in." Or, thay can make life miserable for themselves and those about them by being rebellious. It's a choice everyone with a job has to make. Fit in or not.

Yes yes, aka shut your mouth and nod.
 
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These days, I would say probably yes. For the most part, the human race as a whole has lost nearly all of its ability to listen, process, think critically, speak, type, write etc. (fill in the blank, really...if it's a cognitive/processing trait, it is most likely gone). We have the smart phone and social media to thank for this, chiefly. This applies to even the most basic concepts, let alone complex ones, most of which are, by nature, usually subversive and/or steeped in controversy. The hoi polloi have never reacted particularly well to anyone who tries to rise above the mediocrity in any way, shape or form, but this does seem to be amplified nowadays; they'll pretty much resort to anything to knock you down if you even try, and shame you in the process. I feel like Bill Hicks must be turning in his grave...and to think of how much worse things have gotten in the last 30-odd years since that wonderful lifeform graced this largely indifferent and unappreciative planet.

My wife recently said, and I quote: "If you don't explain it to them, they'll actually understand it better. Once you try to explain it to them, they're lost!" I think that sums it up nicely. Hell, she even likes the room note of several of my latakia blends, what more could a man ask for? puffy
 
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These days, I would say probably yes. For the most part, the human race as a whole has lost nearly all of its ability to listen, process, think critically, speak, type, write etc. (fill in the blank, really...if it's a cognitive/processing trait, it is most likely gone). We have the smart phone and social media to thank for this, chiefly. This applies to even the most basic concepts, let alone complex ones, most of which are, by nature, usually subversive and/or steeped in controversy. The hoi polloi have never reacted particularly well to anyone who tries to rise above the mediocrity in any way, shape or form, but this does seem to be amplified nowadays; they'll pretty much resort to anything to knock you down if you even try, and shame you in the process. I feel like Bill Hicks must be turning in his grave...and to think of how much worse things have gotten in the last 30-odd years since that wonderful lifeform graced this largely indifferent and unappreciative planet.

My wife recently said, and I quote: "If you don't explain it to them, they'll actually understand it better. Once you try to explain it to them, they're lost!" I think that sums it up nicely. Hell, she even likes the room note of several of my latakia blends, what more could a man ask for? puffy

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the larger the organization that you work for the less individual personality you display is a sought after HR test qualification . There are exceptions to that for High achievers . I’ve taken multiple personality tests and abstract thinking tests for work. I’d practice for them with apps that are available, before interviews . On abstract thinking I scored in the 99th percentile fir the entire company , the personality test less good , but I might of been too honest
 
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The thing people rarely understand is that it is better to listen to understand, not listen to respond. When I listen to understand, I give the speaker the room to share more and to be understood. When I listen to respond, I make it about me. People usually tend to want to be in a conversation with someone who is listening, in my experience.
 

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Sometimes people share esoteric details in an attempt to show off. That can get tiresome.

I think many people are just fine with interesting personalities! It's the a-hole that's always 'man-splaning' something that few people are interested in.

Not saying that's you. Just saying it's a thing to watch out for.
 
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Sometimes people share esoteric details in an attempt to show off. That can get tiresome.

I think many people are just fine with interesting personalities! It's the a-hole that's always 'man-splaning' something that few people are interested in.

Not saying that's you. Just saying it's a thing to watch out for.

Yea, I certainly understand your point. I should of use quotations for esoteric as usually these things are kinda entry level details on a subject. Actually a few weeks ago some people I was working with brought up the touchy subject of nuclear war and one commented that they would be more worried about the unlikely prospect of it if they lived on the west coast as it's closer to Russia. Well, I thought about interjecting but had the common sense in the moment to keep my mouth shut... (and no I'm not implying that the west coast is in fact in closer proximity to Russia).
 
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When I was a load-master we used to have Mig escorts when we flew along the coastof the Bering Sea. As some nasty politician said, "We could see the USSR from our windows." Of course our fighters rode escort to the Russian bombers which flitted about our air-space testing fighter responses. For what it's worth, on our 123's our most powerful armament were short barreled SW .38's and a .22 for varments if we crashed into the bush. We were badly out gunned. Migs against Providers was hardly a balanced gunfight.

That was back in 60's, what goes round comes round. We and Russians are teasing each other again, figuring out response times and such.
 
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When I was a load-master we used to have Mig escorts when we flew along the coastof the Bering Sea. As some nasty politician said, "We could see the USSR from our windows." Of course our fighters rode escort to the Russian bombers which flitted about our air-space testing fighter responses. For what it's worth, on our 123's our most powerful armament were short barreled SW .38's and a .22 for varments if we crashed into the bush. We were badly out gunned. Migs against Providers was hardly a balanced gunfight.

That was back in 60's, what goes round comes round. We and Russians are teasing each other again, figuring out response times and such.

Well, I don't dispute any of that but it doesn't makes much of difference time wise if you are on the West or East coast. "Honey, San Fran just got nuked! Can we make it out of the garage in 10mins?!"
 

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Is talking too much at work these days about non-political subjects a liability? I think it really depends on the speaker. A person who says the same thing all the time would be annoying. That person's "personality" is a liability. However, a person who is funny and insightful and knows how to engage people would be entertaining. That person's "personality" is an asset.
 
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Is talking too much at work these days about non-political subjects a liability? I think it really depends on the speaker. A person who says the same thing all the time would be annoying. That person's "personality" is a liability. However, a person who is funny and insightful and knows how to engage people would be entertaining. That person's "personality" is an asset.

Sounds like a lot of work...