Young Pipe Smoker - Parents?

[barkar]

+1 @ohin3....my experience was very similar.
I can tell my son is older then you now but as he was growing up sooner or later no matter what he was into he would eventually spill his guts and we would talk it over.

Don't under estimate Dad, I'm sure he knows exactly what's going on. The fact that he let the purchase slide means he is ok with it but not ready to show acceptance yet.

I would lead into the discussion by talking about your grandfather and his pipes. Let Dad tell you what he remembers about his Dad back in the day.

 

[dervis]

Honesty is the best policy as has been stated. The only drawback here is if the situation is the same as your first post and they are still writing you checks. Now there is NOTHING wrong with parents helping out their kids/young adults/ OLD adults whatever. I suspect very few of us can say we have not been in that boat. I do think that if they are providing money , they get some vote in it. Again I am not the first one to say this but it might surprise you and they are fine with your new hobby. I wish you the best!

 

[auspipe]

I am almost 20 and also in Australia. Was never a smoker before the pipe, and my parents don't mind at all as its just a casual hobby for me that I enjoy. If you want tobacco you need to order online as the selection here is terrible and overpriced. The only good place to get it is from tobaccoblends.com.au they import the McClellands and a few others, but expect to pay around $50 for 50grams. Order from 4noggins, never had a problem with them.

 

[ozziepiper]

Yeah I've seen the tobbacoblends.com.au website before. It's way cheaper to import like you said. About $30 per 50g with import duties and tobacco tax rather than $50. I'm going to use smokingpipes.com. Bought my pipes and all my paraphernalia from them and they were great. My Dad doesn't know anything, if he did he would be raging. I'm sure he will find out at some point, but I don't care. We agree on most things, but we can't agree on everything and this is something I want to do so I'm going to do it in private.

 

[piperasmus]

Thats a very important topic... I have been smoking for almost 17 years..I would not want my son to be a smoker..

If he were a smoker I would suggest him a pipe rather than cigars or cigarettes.

 

[mrgunnar177]

Hello I have some advice, mostly because I come from the same background, I'm 18, my dad used to smoke pipes and cigars however I don't remember him doing it he gave it up when I was young. My mom never smoked however her dad and mom did and her mom died several years ago from lung cancer. So as you can see my parents are against smoking and tobacco use. Well when I was about 16 I got interested in pipes and cigars before then I was strongly against smoking. Well when I was 18 I bought a few pipes and a small 4 sampler thing from tobacco barn. Well my parents didn't know and I kept it from them. So about 3 months ago my dad went through my backpack to grab a calculator. And he found my gallon size freezer bag filled with 5 pipes and the tobacco. I was worried to say the least. Well what he said surprised me, he respected the fact that I'm 18 and all he did was make some common sense ground rules: not in the house not around my siblings ( they are 13). And don't brig them to school. And that was the end of that. I now smoke about every two weeks I just tell them I'm going for a walk and they know what that means lol. Oh and my dad was pretty strict growing up. So my advice to you is if they ask or you plan to smoke back home then tell them honestly however if the don't ask or anything I don't see the reason to bring it up especially if it will bring up a fight. If you feel like you should tell them then tell them. They will still love you and care about you they might not be happy about it but they will deal with it.

All the best and let me know how it goes

Gunnar

 

[hiplainsdrifter]

I heard this recently: Other people's opinion of you is none of your business. That includes your parents. I started smoking a pipe at 17. If you live with your parents that would be one thing, but if you are on your own it is your decision. If you feel there is nothing wrong with it, do it. If you think it is wrong, don't do it.

 

[espear]

So, I like your father.
He is trying to protect you from something that he fears would be very bad for you. He had a very serious nicotine addiction problem that was threatening his life and his ability to support and raise you. He worked very hard to get rid of it. He is to be respected and admired for that.
So, it makes perfect sense that he wants to see you stay clear of all tobacco. He doesn't want you to fall into the same problem that he had and probably still has although inactive.
He has a very good point. Many of us can enjoy a pipe once in a while and just enjoy the taste and the aroma. But we don't know how it might work for you? Would you start with a pipe and get addicted to nicotine or cigarettes as he did? Even though most pipe smokers don't inhale....you might carry the same additive gene as he does and be at a higher risk than most of us.
So be careful here. He wants the best for you and is willing to stand up for what he believes is in your best interest.
From another standpoint. Since you are living at home and taking the family subsidy you had better sacrifice any pride for gratitude
Ellis

 

[shaintiques]

So you do realize this dude isn't active on the forum anymore right. The post was started a year ago and the original poster only has 11 posts. It is great to read old posts, but commenting on them to people who obviously aren't active is a little odd.

 

[espear]

Dear Shaintiques,
Golly,
I had not really paid attention to the "aging" of the posts or the thread.
Thanks for bringing that to my attention.
I'll try to improve
E. Spear

 

[plateauguy]

Even though the author of the "young smoker" is no longer on-line with us, I'd still like to add my 2 cents worth, so here it is:
The shoe is on the other foot. I have a grown daughter with two 7 year old granddaughters and none of them know that I occasionally smoke a pipe and have done so since before my daughter was born.
In the world of politically corrent, college educated, nonsmokers - I'm bad. I don't hide it, I just don't do it around them. I'm too old, and don't want to hear my daughter's lectures. But, as my pipe collection has grown, it is now proudly displayed so I can hear it now . . .

 

[espear]

Dear Plateuguy,
Yes, it is unfortunate that smoking an "occasional pipe" has become so closely identified with the serious addiction of smoking cigarettes.
I, like you enjoy the "occasional pipe". I don't think it has serious health risks, nor after 30 years of the "occasional pipe" do I have any interest in cigarettes....which I detest. But there are others who seem to be at a higher risk of tobacco addiction. We see young people starting to smoke cigarettes all the time and get seriously addicted in a few months. It is a very scary situation.
Too bad that the two have gotten commingled to this extent.
In the case of the young man above ....we have a father who is very concerned about protecting his son from a possible addiction that he very well may express; given his family history.
E. Spear

 

[kashmir]

I pipe smoke 24/7. Thirty years now. Folks all know I smoke a pipe. I tell em pop smokes a pipe. Deal with it. For me, pipes are more important than people. My immediate family is totally cool with my pipes. And they are really the only people that matter. The rest are just strangers. It is what it is. Of course I don't smoke at work. That's because, the way I see it, they pay me not to smoke. I'll go along with that. But when no one is paying me not to smoke, why I'll smoke my pipe. It really is just that simple.

 

[erichbaumer]

I like the "paid not to smoke" way of putting it, actually makes alot of sense...

 

[foggymountain]

I remember I started at 14, but didn't tell my parents until about 15. Then, as far as I remember, I just let them find out. They made fun of me a little, my father was a brutal individual, but I didn't let it bother me. I was used to them being a nuisance, and I guess they were used to me being a problem. There was a period around that time when my father did not speak to me for about a year. That was a blessed vacation, then life returned to normal.