Wife Doesn't Like Me Smoking
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My wife is very understanding. She is patient up to a point. She will put up with about one bowl either in the house or in the car, being smoked around her and then she needs a break. She doesn't relegate me to a mancave. We enjoy relaxing and talking in the evening which is when I usually smoke.
There are certain blends which bother her more than others. She can take most of the english blends I smoke, but is bothered by oriental heavy blends. I try to smoke blends she enjoys the smell of, usually she likes to try a puff or two of a new blend.
Compromise is critical. If you show you are willing to give in half the time, hopefully your wife will reciprocate. Ultimately though, I believe that a marriage will be best when both husband and wife are loving each other with the kind of sacrificial and unconditional love that Jesus Christ modeled.
There are certain blends which bother her more than others. She can take most of the english blends I smoke, but is bothered by oriental heavy blends. I try to smoke blends she enjoys the smell of, usually she likes to try a puff or two of a new blend.
Compromise is critical. If you show you are willing to give in half the time, hopefully your wife will reciprocate. Ultimately though, I believe that a marriage will be best when both husband and wife are loving each other with the kind of sacrificial and unconditional love that Jesus Christ modeled.
Definitely be courteous. Some times my wife says she hates the smell. So I don a designated smoking jacket and only smoke in the garage. No smoking indoors or else! I can understand that. She hates my snuff spitting too... so I just really learned to hide it and don't do much spitting in the nasty bottle when she's around. Keep that hidden at all times... and brush often. My wife also actually prefers the smell of cigars better than the pipe. I found she wasn't a fan of my smell after smoking aromatics. So I tried some English blends, Latakia, and now my favorite Escudo. Haven't heard a thing lately about smell. Good for me because I can live without the aromatics. I think the Escudo smells a thousand times better myself. I simply let my wife know that smoking a pipe is something I do now and absolutely love. Makes me happy. She's actually pretty tolerant even though I know she doesn't really like any type of smoking mainly because conventional wisdom would lead us all to believe that cigarettes contributed to her 82 year old grandmother's death. I beg to differ in silence. Funny thing is I told her and the kids that pipe smokers actually live longer. My son said... "yeah mom, look how long Santa Clause has been around and he smokes a pipe". We all had to laugh at that one!
25 years of marriage is now under my belt. I have smoked for 34 yrs now but 15 on the pipe and the last full year on the pipe only. While kids were growing up I smoked outdoors or in the porch. Kids are now gone and I smoke in the room with computer. There are certain tobacco's my wife finds strong so I limit those to when she is at work. She is very happy that I gave up the cigs and tolerates the pipe. I know she would like me to quit completely but she would never push it, as I would not as well if the role were reversed. What in Blue Blazes makes one spouse think they can dictate to the other what they can or cannot do? And what is wrong with the mind set of the spouse that is being "Bullied"! Yes, I said it. It is a form of bullying regardless what you may use for an arguement. Now, if it comes down to a health issue, that is completely different, but otherwise, it is bullying. My opinion would be, "There is the door, I can use it or you can, makes no difference"! Let the door knob hit you where the good Lord split you.
Without heavy drinking and gambling life would be pretty boring!!!
I have always smoked in our house, been married 11 years. I don't ask for a lot but I will not be "tamed" by my wife. We are a couple, and part of me is smoking, fishing, golfing, drinking, hunting, gambling, and other sorts of manly things that I will not apologize for or stop doing. She enjoys hanging out with her friends, cycling, ice cream, and her (our) cats, which she will not give up, nor would I ask her too. Marriage is about compromise, whatever works for yours might not work for mine. We are happy, and have been for years because we accept each other. I would not be groomed into a person I am not to make her happy, and I would not change her for the world.
I'm going on 9 years of marriage and she definetly accepts me for who I am and vice versa. I really have no vices other than this new hobby. Never liked to drink and cigarettes make me are nasty ( the smell ). I've recently been out of work for 16 months and undergone 5 back surgeries and needed something to help relax my stresses and my bad back. Always wanted to try smoking a pipe and I gotta say it helps. I know she understands but hoping it's just because it's new that she will accept it in the future.
Gotta say I love the taste and the relaxing ritual. I can't believe people choose cigarettes over a pipe, guess Its the fast lifestyle.
Gotta say I love the taste and the relaxing ritual. I can't believe people choose cigarettes over a pipe, guess Its the fast lifestyle.
@nfisher...I really respect your words and enjoy reading whatever you write.
@lawrence...If you were arabian, your wife might call you "Ce Sayed", which means the tough, strict, controller husbend. love your reply sir.
@lawrence...If you were arabian, your wife might call you "Ce Sayed", which means the tough, strict, controller husbend. love your reply sir.
My wife encourages my pipe smoking and I'm allowed to smoke inside (which is a blessing in this weather). The only thing bothering me is how she teases me about all the wonderful pipe-related things such as bags and accessories I could have if I only totally switched to pipes and quit cigs. It is a decision which is getting more tempting every day.
I'm very lucky my wife puffs as well.
However, ... In public I have been approached by several women who requested that I stop smoking in public.
My reply is always I will stop smoking in public when you quit wearing bras in public.
Seems fair to me.
However, ... In public I have been approached by several women who requested that I stop smoking in public.
My reply is always I will stop smoking in public when you quit wearing bras in public.
Seems fair to me.
Do what Shaun did - he converted ME to pipe smoking and now I have no reason to bitch at him. 
It started out with "this blend tastes really good. Want to take a puff?" and eventually ended up with another addict in the house!
Actually, I insisted he started smoking a pipe. He was in a corporate management atmosphere where business was done on the golf course with cigars and beer. I don't mind the drinking but the smell of cigars gives me a migraine. I told him he could have the tobacco but that stuff needed to not reek. Still, there are certain blends I don't allow him to smoke in the house - he can do it in his car or at work - but not here. (My migraines are often week long events.) We still experiment with blends - the one he smoked last night reeked so bad he didn't get a goodnight kiss. Once I find out what it is, it's going to be another car blend.
Another idea is to present her with the research on the positive effects of nicotine - lower stress and bp, pain relief, etc...
It started out with "this blend tastes really good. Want to take a puff?" and eventually ended up with another addict in the house! Actually, I insisted he started smoking a pipe. He was in a corporate management atmosphere where business was done on the golf course with cigars and beer. I don't mind the drinking but the smell of cigars gives me a migraine. I told him he could have the tobacco but that stuff needed to not reek. Still, there are certain blends I don't allow him to smoke in the house - he can do it in his car or at work - but not here. (My migraines are often week long events.) We still experiment with blends - the one he smoked last night reeked so bad he didn't get a goodnight kiss. Once I find out what it is, it's going to be another car blend.
Another idea is to present her with the research on the positive effects of nicotine - lower stress and bp, pain relief, etc...
I started smoking a pipe only about 6 years ago....... went over 40 years smoking nothing and never did smoke cigarettes. She does smoke cigs so doesn't say a word most the time about where/when I smoke. Once in a great while a blend will hit her nose just wrong and she says something so I usually move along somewhere else. Next time the same blend doesn't bother her at all. Could be weather or just how she is feeling that day. She knows I enjoy it, and likes me happy.
She has even put up with my buying and selling a few estates, making pipes and accessories (Which can be an expensive endeavor) and never says a word either, other than, I like that one, or you missed a sand mark right here.
I couldn't ask for a better partner in my life.
She has even put up with my buying and selling a few estates, making pipes and accessories (Which can be an expensive endeavor) and never says a word either, other than, I like that one, or you missed a sand mark right here.
I couldn't ask for a better partner in my life.
mctrav asked how we deal with wives who are not fans of the pipe, we answered....
To each his own for sure!
We aren't debating which plan is best, we're crowd-sourcing potential solutions to a perceived inconvenience.
Welcome to the hivemind!
Welcome to the hivemind!
"We aren't debating which plan is best, we're crowd-sourcing potential solutions to a perceived inconvenience."
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My mistake; I responded to what I saw as persuasiveness. Often, a thread is started merely seeking agreement/support with a decision already made.
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My mistake; I responded to what I saw as persuasiveness. Often, a thread is started merely seeking agreement/support with a decision already made.
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