Problems With a Friend Having Problems with Baldness

[BROBS]

I think he needs to grow it out and embrace the Skullet

have you thought of lovingly teasing him with the term “friar tuck”?

 

[puff_not_snuff]

I recently cut my hair which was down past my shoulders. It just became too much of a pain in the ass to take care of. It was thinning up top and I didn't care for the look. I also hated having to take care of so much freaking hair. All through my younger years I could grow a huge afro and back in the 70's and 80's I did have a huge hair band type hair do with my hair always down to my shoulders. Now at 63 my hair is thinning up top with plenty on the back and sides. I will eventually go bald I think and if I do I won't give a shit as I am already an old man in a wheelchair who has a live in caretaker and my days of chasing down trim are over. I had all the hair I needed back in the days when it counted. Now it doesn't matter and I couldn't care less if I go bald.

I grew up with a friend who started going bald in his early 20's and it really messed with his head and he had those plugs put in and those looked ridiculous and he was already married with a wife and 2 kids. I never understood why he cared so much since it obviously didn't bother his wife. Some people just have self esteem issues when they really shouldn't.

Why did you have issues with a trim when you were younger?

 

[puff_not_snuff]

I think he needs to grow it out and embrace the Skullet

have you thought of lovingly teasing him with the term “friar tuck”?

I would not say that.

 

[briarbuck]

He is single. He was "popular" with women before his hair had enough of his head and started to fall off. He's in his late 30s, I think maybe it would be easier if he lost it younger as he would of gotten us to not having so much attention from women.

It's 95% attitude. if he feels good about himself, hair means nothing. Anger at others is most often caused by low self esteem.

 

[telescopes]

Tell Pablo hey

Ha, back then, he was a sparkle in my mother's eye.

 

[BROBS]

Ha, back then, he was a sparkle in my mother's eye.

You are Telescopes Escobar?

 

[cosmicfolklore]

He is single. He was "popular" with women before his hair had enough of his head and started to fall off. He's in his late 30s, I think maybe it would be easier if he lost it younger as he would of gotten us to not having so much attention from women.

If this is the thinking, then your friend is going to have a serendipity when he realizes that not all women are like men. We men spend so much time on so many of the wrong things about ourselves. But, if he is afraid women won't be attracted to someone who is bald or balding, then he is in luck.

 

[puff_not_snuff]

If this is the thinking, then your friend is going to have a serendipity when he realizes that not all women are like men. We men spend so much time on so many of the wrong things about ourselves. But, if he is afraid women won't be attracted to someone who is bald or balding, then he is in luck.

I think you are very right with that statement. He shouldn't be used for his hair or body. He wears baggy clothes so I don't know if he is in shape.

 

[BROBS]

Jnco and baldness don’t mix

 

[telescopes]

You are Telescopes Escobar?

The opposite. I worked for an "NGO".

 

[puff_not_snuff]

Jnco and baldness don’t mix

Jnco is skater clothes? He dresses more professional.

 

[telescopes]

Seriously. Learn to develop a fashion sense that befits the physical form. Then, carry yourself appropriately.

 

[puff_not_snuff]

Seriously. Learn to develop a fashion sense that befits the physical form. Then, carry yourself appropriately. View attachment 81733

The lady on the left has very thick and black hair.

 

[telescopes]

The lady on the left has very thick and black hair.

Ha, Ha, it wouldn't be Palm Springs if she didn't.

 

[telescopes]

Just a thought. Invite your friend to Palm Springs. I know of some places where he might feel a bit more comfortable with men who, shall we say, have learned to deal with being different. I am thinking of the Barracks or the Tool Shed. Manly places where a man can be a man.

 

[puff_not_snuff]

Just a thought. Invite your friend to Palm Springs. I know of some places where he might feel a bit more comfortable with men who, shall we say, have learned to deal with being different. I am thinking of the Barracks or the Tool Shed. Manly places where a man can be a man.

Thank you. I am not sure he would be comfortable at a placed called "Tool Shed" that has a different meaning here.

 

[telescopes]

Thank you. I am not sure he would be comfortable at a placed called "Tool Shed" that has a different meaning here.

Oh no. It is named appropriately. There are men. They have tools. And they like to display them and let others handle them. What more could a gentleman want or ask for. They could also give him lots of hints on how to best use them and get the maximum benefit.

 

[telescopes]

IBTL

@cosmicfolklore

 

[BROBS]

Oh no. It is named appropriately. There are men. They have tools. And they like to display them and let others handle them. What more could a gentleman want or ask for. They could also give him lots of hints on how to best use them and get the maximum benefit.

 

[Skatutakee]

We see ego as being this evil thing, but we all have a self image. Remove something from our face or head and it is really hard to look in the mirror. Luckily for me, I can't see my bald spot without two mirrors, ha ha. But, I can totally empathize with someone who can see the bare skin on their head.

Fair enough. I’ve worn a beard since 19, and if it fell out tomorrow, I’d bitch about it. But about the only situations I can imagine that involve me being clean-shaven also involve medical conditions severe enough that the loss of facial hair would be the least of my concerns. Someone fighting through that kind of situation gets all the empathy in the world from me.

But that’s different. It sounds like OP’s friend is struggling with aging, and specifically aging out of sexual attention he used to enjoy. And aging sucks in a lot of ways. But we all have to do it, in the best-case scenario, and we either make our peace with it or we make ourselves and everyone around us miserable.

And aging isn’t all bad. I’m happier by far in my 50s than I was in my 20s. I hope OP’s buddy gets to a similar place someday, but nobody can carry him there.