Problems With a Friend Having Problems with Baldness

[ofafeather]

Yeah - people will respond differently. My hair was definitely thinning in my early 20s and at 48 I don’t have much on top. I remember one time in my early 20s when I was getting a haircut and I mentioned that I wanted to leave it a little long in front. Barber looked at me and said “yeah, we’re going to have to.” ?

I think it’s ok for someone to be upset about losing their hair but it needs to be accepted in the end. I’ve been keeping my hair buzzed or fully shaved for many years now. I always wear a hat outside but that’s for protection rather than being self conscious about it.

Yeah, it kinda sucks but I save a lot on shampoo. I’d say try the short hair cut and don’t hide it. Oh, and he should stop taking it out on people. That’s crap.

 

[BROBS]

John Wayne had trouble pooping

 

[telescopes]

John Wayne had trouble pooping

I'm not sure, but I think you can go to Hell for saying that?

 

[Skatutakee]

... maybe forgo books about mensuration and knitting, ha ha.

Just say no to medieval musical notation!

 

[sablebrush52]

My good friend of many years has been losing his hair at a considerable rate recently. It seems to effecting many aspects of his self esteem and he has been acting very angry towards many people including myself. Maybe it doesn't help that I have a full head of hair, I have been trying to wear more caps around him to maybe make him think about the difference in hair less. I hate to lie but have been encouraging, often telling him that losing his hair is no big deal and it looks great. I also have been trying to get him into pipes as I feel like they are a good distraction. Do members have any suggestions? I would really like not to lose this good friend of mine over him losing his hair of all things.

Be supportive without being coddling. Going bald is mostly genetics and maybe an excess of testosterone. Tell him his baldness is proof that he's shooting super powered wrigglers!

Hopefully he will accept reality and get over it. Going bald is no big deal, and people who remain obsessed about hair or the lack of it have much bigger psychological issues to deal with.

 

[scloyd]

My hair is really thin on top and it gets thinner every year. I just keep my hair cut short. Eventually the hair on top will be gone and I'll have hair on the sides and back. That's OK...it is what it is. I've been married for over 40 years and my wife and I are aging, balding, sagging and wrinkling together.

There are plenty of other things in life that could be worse than losing your hair.

 

[verporchting]

Hair today, gone tomorrow.

Admirable that you are trying to help, but ultimately futile. Nobody can do it for him, he must come to grips with his own situation and how he deals with it.

I’ve given up trying to figure out how to help / fix / comfort others. I do me, they do them. Kindly, of course, when possible.

 

[kcghost]

I guess I could just tell the guy to grow a pair but it will likely fall on deaf ears.

 

[cosmicfolklore]

Ha, when he's not looking spray him with some Minoxidil or some of that spray on hair stuff. Distract him, and then spritz, haha.

 

[Skatutakee]

^ It occurs to me that this is more or less how I put flea drops on my cat.

 

[telescopes]

Oh, I forgot, start wearing hats when outdoors and inside when you want to look Kool.

 

[anantaandroscoggin]

Had a co-worker who mentioned that he started losing his hair at 19 years old, and it was only a couple of years later that it was pretty much gone except for the surrounding fringe.

 

[Skatutakee]

So, when I was into honing and shaving with straight razors, many bald men used them and it was a badge of courage and skill.

Respect. I've never had the nerve to give myself a straight razor shave. But I tell you what, though. Getting your head shaved at the barber shop is the man version of a pedicure. Dudes with a full head of hair don't know what they're missing.

 

[cosmicfolklore]

Oh, I forgot, start wearing hats when outdoors and inside when you want to look Kool.

Yeh, hats for us balding men aren't just for looks. Having a sunburn on your crown is worse than a sunburn anywhere else on your body. It hurts. Wear hats!

 

[Skatutakee]

^ A mistake you make only once in your life.

 

[PaulTheScandinavian]

In order to retard hair loss Jeris hair tonic or any other similar substance and quality hairbrush is a man's best means ,use daily

 

[brian64]

Everything there is to say on this subject is contained within the saga of George on Seinfeld.

 

[jerseysam]

1. Shave head
2. Up the physical fitness/gym game
3. Make an effort to dress well (following upscale, age-appropriate men's fashion)

Losing your hair stinks.....especially if a person is still in their teens/twenties. Beyond that, not to sound callous, many women will respond to successful career (which can be more than money...) and decent physique/well dressed. Keeping a fading birds-nest on your dome with pissy attitude.....that's a down-home, crust-cut "No getting laid" sandwich. Shave it, work on body...which is 100% controllable as opposed to hair.

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[telescopes]

Actually, thinking you can comfort someone who is loosing their hair is a bit insulting. It's a natural part of living. There is nothing "wrong" with having a head of hair that is thinning. Speaking for balding people everywhere, "We don't need or require your help in order to feel any more human or acceptable in anyone's eyes." I suddenly feel "woke".

BLM!!!

 

[cigrmaster]

I recently cut my hair which was down past my shoulders. It just became too much of a pain in the ass to take care of. It was thinning up top and I didn't care for the look. I also hated having to take care of so much freaking hair. All through my younger years I could grow a huge afro and back in the 70's and 80's I did have a huge hair band type hair do with my hair always down to my shoulders. Now at 63 my hair is thinning up top with plenty on the back and sides. I will eventually go bald I think and if I do I won't give a shit as I am already an old man in a wheelchair who has a live in caretaker and my days of chasing down trim are over. I had all the hair I needed back in the days when it counted. Now it doesn't matter and I couldn't care less if I go bald.

I grew up with a friend who started going bald in his early 20's and it really messed with his head and he had those plugs put in and those looked ridiculous and he was already married with a wife and 2 kids. I never understood why he cared so much since it obviously didn't bother his wife. Some people just have self esteem issues when they really shouldn't.