pinhead, you have to calibrate to your mostly male social scene setting. If you've ever been in a mostly male club, the military, a sports team, etc., the hassle comes with the territory. Do your own banter, and don't sweat it. Anyone who takes the ragging seriously is going to feel insulted, but that ain't the way it's meant. Just riffing and venting competitive impulses. Some really funny stuff woven into the schlock. And then just lots of schlock. And apologies to women members who are genetically blessed with better social skills.