I use a soft flame lighter. They burn hotter than matches, but they're more convenient in my opinion, and I never have to leave it on long. When I use matches, I sometimes feel I'm smoking fire, and afterwards, my tongue is in a bit of pain. If you're concerned about catching the house on fire, then maybe invest in a lighter and keep a fire extinguisher in the room. I recommend a soft flame lighter; they can be a bit pricy, but they work great in my opinion. Nothing wrong with a Bic or a nice Zippo though.