Hopefully snus discussion is allowed on these forums. Both my FIL and a Swede friend of mine have got me totally hooked on snus. I'm absolutely obssessed with it, almost moreso than my pipe. However, my wife is not a fan of it (and that is putting it lightly). She is fine with me smoking a pipe and cigars on a regular basis (or at least doesn't make a big deal about it) but when it comes to addictive direct nicotine substances like snus, she is against it with a passion. We actually had an explosive argument about it two weekends ago. I told her I wouldn't use it anymore since she was so opposed to it and while that was true for several days, I once again found myself buying another tin. As it seems to me, her main objection is that she doesn't like the thought of me being hooked on an addictive substance (ironic, I know). As you might be able to tell, I am a young guy and have been married for around three years so would appreciate your sagely advices. I have been continuing to use it in secret when I am working from home, in the office, or doing homework in private in our office but refrain from mentioning it or using it when she is around (not sure if she even knows I have any tins in the house). There is no beating around the bush and I will openly admit it: I am totally addicted. What would be your advice? Do I continue to use it and just don't mention to her or should I respect her wishes and go cold turkey? Half of me wants to do the latter but the other half enjoys snus more than the pipe and cigar and would gladly give up the two to continue snus usage as it gives me so much joy. Thanks in advance for the responses.
Marital advice on snus usage
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Your one conscience is worth more than the thousand of us...
Very wise. Not sure if it’s out of the love of my heart or the fear of getting chewed out
. Part of me feel I ought to do what I want so long as it is within moral constraints but the other is the above.
it is time to cut your losses and let go of the snus.
Tobacco is tobacco and it's all addictive. If I were you I'd probably try to explain that to her. My wife doesn't gripe about any of my favorite methods of nicotine delivery. I will admit though that when I'm using nasal snuff I try to be discreet.
Happy wife, happy life. I'm not even sure i can imagine having a blow out over something like that.
Lucky you! Happy wife happy life certainly is true whether they admit it or not yet without snus I feel like life is a little more glib. Maybe that’s a sign in itself I should cut it off
Strangely enough I don’t feel the addictive qualities of pipe and cigarsx. Maybe a bit so on the cigar but I have no issue putting the pipe or cigar down for a while. Snus on the other hand, I feel naked without one in the upper decker.
Chose your battles man. Im a recovering addict (alcohol and substances). My wife knows I'm a tobacco fanatic and have been for the 11 years we've been together. She'll put up with alot, but she's not big on cigarettes and snuff (sniffing) mainly because of the addiction and health concerns. It's not that I'm not allowed to do it, but I don't out of respect for her. And in return, she doesn't say a word about the money I spend on pipes and tobacco (it's alot).
It's all about a middle ground and respecting eachother. Most importantly, talk about it. When you quit talking, that's when things can go south.
I occasionally sniff snuff now, i just made a conscience effort to not hoard it and do it daily because I love her more than I love snuff.
Hope yall find that middle ground.
YMMV
It's all about a middle ground and respecting eachother. Most importantly, talk about it. When you quit talking, that's when things can go south.
I occasionally sniff snuff now, i just made a conscience effort to not hoard it and do it daily because I love her more than I love snuff.
Hope yall find that middle ground.
YMMV
Oh no i got divorced after 2 years, happy husband f*** that b*tch.
Thanks for your advice and props for your battle with alcohol and substance. It’s interesting hearing her logic behind her adamant hatred of it since it’s not really health related but behavior related. I’ve told her about how snus usage is far safer and healthier than pipe/cigar smoking but again, she seems to be more concerned about the behavior than the health. She said she never wants to talk about it again so maybe that’s my queue
Can’t say this hasn’t crossed my mind. We’ve had a extraordinarily tumultuous marriage. My faith and vows keep me in place though
Yeah, might be time to kick the stuff and focus on pipes if she's not open to talking about it.
I can't belief my wife doesn't bat an eye at my Copenhagen snuff intake. Haha She's a damn Saint.
That middle ground can really work wonders for both parties. The "my way or the highway" is a tough situation to mend for anybody.
I was getting ready to say that happy wife happy life is the mantra of the hen pecked, soon to be divorced husband.
No better or worse than pipes and cigars just minus the smoke and carcinogens produced by burning vegetable matter. Show her this.
I would stick with the pipe if that doesn’t cause you guys any problems. It’s not worth the battle and stress to fight with your wife over this.
I agree. I do appreciate her somewhat silence on my pipe/cigar smoking but for my own health, I would rather be addicted to a substance that is far less harmful than not be addicted to a harmful substance (as much as I adore my pipe and cigar). Thanks for your advice, I think it is wise.
I agree. The convenience of snus is so nice though, can't just whip out a pipe wherever I go. Shame.
Simple question, is snus the hill worth you wish to die on?
That is a great question that I still haven't found the answer to. Part of me thinks: if I give up this liberty, what next but another part of me thinks that is purely selfish. I will tell you this, as a Christian, I ask myself: "Why let something so small like a sachet of tobacco drive a wedge between you and your wife?" funny how a lifeless object is not sinful in itself but causes great division, reminiscent to the One Ring.
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