Interesting story...

[jsiddle]

Thought I would share this with you guys...
When I informed my parents (who are cigarette smokers for life) that I wanted to pick up pipe smoking for the hobby aspect and novelty of it, they were pretty cool about it, my dad even recommended capn black mild (guess thats what it was called WAYYY back when)
When my sister found out, the conversation started off as "why the hell are you smoking" please note my sister is younger (21) and very naive to how the world works and is very black and white about stuff. She sees it as I am killing myself, those around me, making everything smell, etc, etc...
Well I recently set up a trip to go visit her and her boyfriend at their apartment for the day tomorrow. I asked her if it would be cool if I could smoke on her balcony. I was confronted with a huge NO. (this "fight" is still doing on via text messaging by the way lol)
anyhow, her reasoning at first was because her bf smoked a little when they had a separation and she doesn't want him to think its OK again. first off, shouldn't he be able to make those choices for his own life.
which brings me to another thing she said, she wont date a nonsmoker... whoa, OK, so he is unemployed and she is currently paying all the bills... logic says he wouldn't dare try to get kicked out lol...
then shes saying its all about her, not him, that she just doesn't want smoking "around" her apartment... meaning I even obliged to go out and sit on the steps below to smoke, and she doesn't want it and will get pissed at me because i am not respecting her wishes (because its someone she knows who is smoking, not someone she doesn't). like that makes sense.
So I obliged and told her OK I wont bring it, but the defensive texts keep a flowin...
So I got pissed back and started pointing out all the health risk shit she does, "that are OK" (cuz she thinks it is cuz she does it).
I know its about him, our parents have smoked since we were very small, in the house, we have been around it all our lives...
I dont know what do you guys think... I might add more as replies if more comes to mind...

 

[jsiddle]

And it's not like he wont know I do it... I plan on letting him know about my adventures in pipe smoking lol... she never said I couldn't say anything about it... just that I can't smoke in or around her apartment...
All its gonna take is a "Hey, I'll see you guys later, going to have a smoke." And he will know...

 

[jsiddle]

So seems like we are calming down and I told her, enough daggers, both ways, I wont bring it, cool...
(thinking about letting her know I plan on smoking at the park we plan on going to... lol) but thats the kinda person I am... I push buttons to see how people react...

 

[papipeguy]

Never had a sister but I do have a 27 year-old daughter who hates my smoking. When she gives my "that look" I just fart and tell her to choose which one she wants around. She usually feigns disgust but smirks anyway.

 

[hawk60ce]

Some people are just anti-smoking no matter what and theres no changing them.

 

[jsiddle]

Some people are just anti-smoking no matter what and theres no changing them.

She hates it, not trying to change that honestly...
But its like shes trying to change everyone to believe what she does because she thinks its bad...
I just wanted to smoke outside...

 

[johncorosz]

There's a reason I remain single...there are precious few real good women around to be in a man's life. Many are serious control freaks with anger management issues.

 

[jsiddle]

.there are precious few real good women

glad i found one, she smokes with me...

 

[kris]

If I remember correctly, you didn't smoke anything until a few days ago???
Why upset the applecart?

 

[jsiddle]

Why upset the applecart?

? Why upset my sister? I didnt try to... she found out of my smoking from my dad...
And I was just asking... A simple, "I really dont want it here" would have sufficed...
not the 20+ texts i received...

 

[kris]

All I'm saying is if you only go through 1 bowl a day, why even make it an issue with your sister? You can just smoke that bowl outside..

 

[wayneteipen]

Sounds like she's been well indoctrinated by the public school system and the anti-freedom nazis. They start the antismoking indoctrination almost as soon as they hit the door.

 

[sparroa]

With all due respect, it sounds like you were batting at a hornet's nest by suggesting you bring it to her place...
She is off base about giving you grief but you are better off respecting her wishes and not smoking at her house.
At your place, the public, or even the family home then it's your business and not hers.

 

[jsiddle]

You can just smoke that bowl outside..

Well apparently I cant at her place... or anywhere near her place...
Its a ways away from where I live too...

 

[sixmp]

just show her the 1964 surgeon generals report where it basically says Pipe smokers using four or fewer bowls of tobacco per day had a lower mortality ratio than non-smokers, meaning the death rate was less for occasional pipe smokers than for the general population.
Report

 

[jsiddle]

She is off base about giving you grief but you are better off respecting her wishes and not smoking at her house.

Whats funny is I told her many times in texts I wouldnt bring it... she just kept going off

 

[topd]

Just sounds like a brother/sister thing to me... still arguing about things that don't really matter. (I don't

mean that in a berating way, just saying).

All my family and friends know that I smoke where I want to (been doing it 40 years). If they are against

a pipe, then I respectably don't go there.

You'll find that if you are going to smoke, you'll have choices to make every day about where you go and what

you do. I'm an all day smoker and my family accepted that years ago. (I don't smoke inside my oldest son's house

at their request because of my granddaughters, and I respect that). But the front porch is my place at his house

and I'm welcome there. My son installed a ceiling fan right over my chair so that I'm comfortable on hot days.

 

[shawn622]

I'm confused. You say she won't date a nonsmoker, but she gets pissed that you want to smoke a pipe. I'm guessing that was a typo and you meant that she will not date a smoker. My advice is just don't make an isue of it, Don't soke in her face. Just take a ride if you want a pipe!!!

 

[jsiddle]

I'm confused. You say she won't date a nonsmoker, but she gets pissed that you want to smoke a pipe. I'm guessing that was a typo and you meant that she will not date a smoker. My advice is just don't make an isue of it, Don't soke in her face. Just take a ride if you want a pipe!!!

Ya.. lol typo...
And...Not sure if I am ready to drive and smoke a pipe at the same time yet... lol

 

[numbersix]

I find that sometimes you cannot reason with some people, no matter how logical you may be. And often, it boils down to them not be able to admit they're wrong (or at least the need to be open to another POV).
Sometimes it's best to let it be, and as time passes, though she may never admit it, she may come around.