I Need To Vent

[King Bulldog]

Do you know how much it sucks to lose a patient no matter how much you tried to keep them alive? Happened to me early this morning. What makes it worse is that he was 16. Same age as my little brother. I couldn't save him. I tried for 2 hours to stop all the bleeding from a hit and run. This kid was on his way home from a friend's house. I had to break the news to his parents. I feel so useless. Nothing I did made any difference. I lose a lot of people due to the nature of my job but this was a kid. I'm just so down right now. I'm doing paperwork right now just to avoid the ER. I just needed to vent this. Thanks for reading.

 

[cosmicfolklore]

This is an odd group of guys to vent things like this too. I hate that you have to go through this, but also that you don't have someone better in your life than a bunch of pipesmoking wiseguys to vent to.
When one of my customers dies under my care, I've done something really really wrong, but I also am in a different field than you.
But, thank you for being a doctor.

 

[tbradsim1]

Thank you for trying to save him, saw a lot of guys in S Asia go that way, thank yourself for being a careing man, good men nowadays are hard to find!

 

[King Bulldog]

This is an odd group of guys to vent things like this too. I hate that you have to go through this, but also that you don't have someone better in your life than a bunch of pipesmoking wiseguys to vent to.
When one of my customers dies under my care, I've done something really really wrong, but I also am in a different field than you.
But, thank you for being a doctor.

I figured it would be better to vent here than to deal with the psychology department. Those guys and gals are too much feelings oriented. Just realized it is my birthday too. Such a day already lol.

 

[cosmicfolklore]

Just realized it is my birthday too

Happy Birthday.

 

[tbradsim1]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

 

[jpmcwjr]

Yes, happy birthday! (although my own birthdays are not a joy).

Yes, it must suck big time when you lose a patient, no matter how impossible it may have been to save him. Go in peace!

 

[King Bulldog]

Well my Cheif told me to go home. Looks like I've got to. Going to drink some tonight.

 

[ashdigger]

Well my Cheif told me to go home. Looks like I've got to. Going to drink some tonight.

I listen to Celtic Punk while drinking memory eraser to ease through bad days.

All you can do is move forward. Frustration is part of the game.

 

[trouttimes]

Happy birthday. Unfortunately, in life we do what we can do and sometimes it’s not enough to get the outcome we would like. It sucks but there is nothing you can do except keep trying your best and remember, it’s not all in your hands. The BIG guy has the final say in these things not us. Hang in there.

 

[King Bulldog]

I listen to Celtic Punk while drinking memory eraser to ease through bad days.

All you can do is move forward. Frustration is part of the game.

I'm a classic pub song guy. Might swing by O'Reilly's tonight. Might get a free drink.

 

[King Bulldog]

Happy birthday. Unfortunately, in life we do what we can do and sometimes it’s not enough to get the outcome we would like. It sucks but there is nothing you can do except keep trying your best and remember, it’s not all in your hands. The BIG guy has the final say in these things not us. Hang in there.

That's a good way of thinking. God has a plan for everyone it seems. I'm one of the rare surgeons who are a believer. Most I know are self-righteous atheists. Going to swing by Saints Peter and Paul and ask for communion and a blessing.

 

[serpentx]

I was a medic in the Army for four years. At first I thought I'd make a career out of it. About three years in, I was doing a hospital rotation, and a nurse described having to debride the burns of an eight year-old and I nope'd the eff out and into computer science. I don't know how you do it, but as a father and grandfather, I'm grateful that you do

 

[PA Piper Mike]

Man, that's rough. I can't imagine how that feels, especially when working on someone that young. Poor kid.

Happy Birthday, though. Do your best to have a good one and try to move on.

 

[woodsroad]

I started to write an insightful missive about human compassion and ego, but since I’m recovering from sinus surgery, my brain isn’t up to it. Suffice it to say that, almost 40 years later, I remember every patient that died in my presence while I was a phlebotomist in a community hospital. I had dreams about it for years. And I was a service worker, not a clinician.

 

[King Bulldog]

Sindustry surgery is tough. Get your adnoids removed?

 

[mikethompson]

You know in your heart you did everything you could do. You are only human, not divine.

 

[woodsroad]

Sindustry surgery is tough. Get your adnoids removed?

FESS.
Roto-rootered the drain paths to relieve chronic sinusitis.

 

[King Bulldog]

FESS.
Roto-rootered the drain paths to relieve chronic sinusitis.

That is a tough surgery for recovery. I know our ENT guys love it since it's so invasive lol. Have polyps removed or just a widening? Any complications afterward? This is something that takes my mind off things .

 

[King Bulldog]

You know in your heart you did everything you could do. You are only human, not divine.

Yeah. That's true. We like to think ourselves as Gods (some surgeons anyway) so it's hard to move on from bad surgeries. I'm considered the Iceman in the ER/OR because I numb my feelings afterward. This got to me though.