My sincerest condolences to you our brother. I, too, sadly suffered the loss of my wife of 31 years in 2007. As you said good times and bad, we were a team. My wife endured the horror of cancer treatment for two and a half years so we had a lot of time together to talk and to be close to one another. At the end, I had the sad duty to have her removed from life support when her suffering was pointless. I can certainly understand your pain and sense of loss. I will never remove my wedding band and I shall never again have another wife. You too will make those decisions. If you ever want to discuss your feelings feel free to PM me. I will also give you my personal e-mail address if you would like to have it. At this time, now, allow yourself to grieve, and understand that self doubt about having done enough or having been the best mate always is a normal part of the grief passage. Those doubts have never left me. I have found comfort in the successes of our three sons and in the pictures of my wife and our family that I display all around our home. You might also find comfort in arranging photos in an album to look at frequently and also framed family photos throughout your home.