I have a phobia and always have had this. I NEVER eat at someone else's house, nor will I eat at buffets, potlucks, or anywhere people walk around the food. I also don't have others over for dinner. Wine tastings, or a back yard barbeque, sure... I will put it on their plate straight off the grill. That is about as informal as we get.What a great example. Thank you for sharing. Someone made a statement about not eating at other peoples’ homes - but I have found that sharing a meal with others - is a remarkable way to get to know them and celebrate this thing we call life.
I have had the luxury of having always lived where and how I can do this. I am really not interested at all in setting at someone else's kitchen. And, we have very strict dining room procedures, passed down from my mother, grandmother, etc... my family comes to the table dressed (not fancy, just respectful), and plates are prepared and placed... no walking and breathing over the food. No food in any other part of the house.
And, it brings my heart joy when I visit with my daughters and see them setting tables and passing on the tradition.
We are not better, nor do we judge. We are just what we are.