I can see your POV. It’s a learning experience that leaves an icky feeling I don’t want to repeat. I’m not sure I would have flipped it necessarily but I was definitely thinking it could have been possible. Yes, the icky feeling comes from a sense that I’m in the wrong to some extent. There’s a small part of me that feels that if it’s actually been damaged then there’s a little wiggle room here. Initially, I thought the problem was just the stem. I was prepared to keep the pipe for myself in that case. But I see what you mean. Maybe I’m in the wrong. I’m torn. I don’t feel defensive. I feel very much that I cannot do this again. ETA I’m sure you make a good point. Tunnel vision. I did think it could possibly be valuable. If not, then a cool thing to have. When I realized it was just junk I panicked. I felt like Lucy. How am I gonna explain this to Ricky (my wife is Ricky in this scenario)I agree to a point, he asked to see the pipe mortice AFTER bidding AND WINNING the pipe. The original auction pictures indicated MAJOR issues with the pipe, he bid on it anyways in an attempt, in his own words, to get a really good deal and flip it.
Once he realized that he couldn't do that, after he won, he backed out of his winning bid. To ME, that is way more unethical than anything the seller did. He wasted everyone's time because of buyer's remorse.
As a buyer you place a bid with the knowledge at hand to purchase if you win. Don't bid until AFTER all questions and concerns have been fully addressed to your satisfaction. These are the rules of every auction site I've ever seen.
And how the heck is some random reseller of general household goods supposed to educate themselves about what they are selling? Every steal I've ever got on eBay was because someone didn't know what they were selling. It's one of the major points of participating in an auction as a buyer. If a want to deal with someone who is 'knowledgeable' about estate pipes, I'll buy from one of the many estate pipe vendors.
By his own admission, he thought he saw something rare and valuable for little money and he bought it with apparently a combination of auction fever and tunnel vision. Hell, I did the same thing (more than once!!), twenty years ago when eBay was taking off. Bought some real lemons back then, I did. But those mistakes were mine, I owned to them, and I upheld my end.
Look, I know Milk is conflicted about this, but he bid on the damn thing without full information. That's on him.
PS- the more I look at those pictures, the less I think the shank has been shortened
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