A pipe smoking significant other would be a good thing, but I wouldn't go shopping for specific habits and traits. Nice to have a massage therapist partner, but don't focus on it. People's own chemistry is never something they entirely understand. You think you know what you like and want, but most of the magnetism is not conscious or exactly under your control. That's why people often choose so wrong. The other big factor you overlook is who chooses you back. You can find Miss Perfection, but you may not be Mr. Perfection to her, despite your sterling qualities. So relax and socialize and see who comes along. If she tolerates YOUR smoking a pipe, that might be a good sign. Among thousands of traits, a critical one is what she thinks of you, and more important, how she feels about you. All of this is esoteric, a mystery, and people will never figure it out, which is why there's so much discord and sorrow with love.