Do You Ever Worry That You're Obnoxious?

[Chasing Embers]

But for me, too many times in the past I have expressed my opinions whilst at the same time being openly insulting about others' opinions. I

Easy fix, avoid people.

 

[WerewolfOfLondon]

Easy fix, avoid people.

Yep, this is my preference. The other half doesn't really go for it though.

 

[Chasing Embers]

Yep, this is my preference. The other half doesn't really go for it though.

I've gone so far as having a job where I'm alone for 12 hours.

 

[warren]

I have found that such an approach can lead to pretty ugly scenes, up to and including fist fights

Offer up one's opinion/observation and then simply observe. It's only here, on some threads, that I sometimes push my opinion overly long and often. I do that, usually, to keep a thread bouncing along, for the entertainment value I enjoy. Except in debate one should only state their belief the one time.

 

[karam]

Nope, I won't go out of my way to be a dick, but won't shy from being one either if triggered.

 

[bullet08]

No. I do that all the time on this forum.

 

[gervais]

I am obnoxious at times, other times not so much. I've never worried or thought about it much though! Lol

 

[sablebrush52]

Of course not. My would I concern myself with that?

 

[jpmcwjr]

A couple of days ago in this forum I got a sniggling post illustrating he disliked my altering a post's title, adding caps; adding or deleting words; quietly fixing grammatical errors.

So, I am obnoxious to that guy, but most folks take all that in without complaint. If I've offended someone, I am sort of sorry.<- Obnoxious!!

 

[captainsousie]

A couple of days ago in this forum I got a sniggling post illustrating he disliked my altering a post's title, adding caps; adding or deleting words; quietly fixing grammatical errors.

So, I am obnoxious to that guy, but most folks take all that in without complaint. If I've offended someone, I am sort of sorry.<- Obnoxious!!

I guess I'm the obnoxious guy?

 

[Rossi320]

Do you ever have those moments of shallow contemplation and arrive at the conclusion that you might be a highly obnoxious individual to some or even many? Not that I ever have, ahem, but I do worry that some people I know might.

I am more concerned with being highly obnoxious to myself, yes I have those moments

 

[puff_not_snuff]

I am more concerned with being highly obnoxious to myself, yes I have those moments

That's a good point considering that the brain is pretty much talking to you all day long and in my case 80% or more is highly annoying gibberish.

 

[crashthegrey]

I assume that there is no need to wonder.

 

[Rossi320]

That's a good point considering that the brain is pretty much talking to you all day long and in my case 80% or more is highly annoying gibberish.

Just member it is gibberish and that it is not as bad as what your head makes it seem

 

[proteus]

Not caring what people think of you, and sel-awareness are not mutually exclusive.

Exactly what I meant. I want to be aware of how I am perceived and I can do what I want about it, either not care and not change or care and change. I won't just not care as a rule. I'll listen and evaluate the feedback to see if it I value it. If I don't care I won't put value in it and if I do I'll give it value.

 

[jguss]

If you don't sign my paycheck or share my bed…

Are you talking about one person or two?

 

[jguss]

If you spend your time worrying about how people perceive you, and altering your behavior to better suit them, then you’ll never be yourself and you’ll always come off as a phony with a thin veneer of sincerity.

And that’s bad because….

Wasn’t it Socrates that famously said it’s only the shallow people who really know themselves?

 

[trouttimes]

 

[puff_not_snuff]

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I can't tell if the people on the "analyzing the facts" road are coming or going. And is that a brick someone threw at one of them?

 

[georged]

I know for a fact that I'm obnoxious... I am very passionate about about a great many things and can ramble and pontificate at length about things the vast majority of people could care less about. I think a lot people tolerate my rambling because they want or need something from me.

I also understand how people feel when I go on for a long time about something like antique hand planes, glass insulators, pipes, or vintage kitchen appliances because every time they start talking about sports the shoe is on the other foot. I have zero interest in sports of any kind, I don't watch football, baseball, or basketball. The difference is I rarely need anything from someone else so I have zero inclination to listen to them talk at great length about sportsball. Tell me about your achievements, not the achievements of some athlete I've never met.

I do enjoy vintage motorcycle racing of any kind, this about the closest I get to sports. If there were a competition based on antique restoration I'd be all in.

At the end of the day, I could really care less if people find me obnoxious, as long as they don't find me discourteous.

I feel like the phrase "He's a nice guy but he never shuts up, who the fuck cares about cast iron pans?" is probably used to describe me on a regular basis.

Imagine three people wired the same way as this ^^^^, with overlapping fields of interest, on a 1000 mile out-and-back road trip in a Chevy Tahoe.

I can.

Several times.