This AM I was reading through some of the bits in Lewis's LETTERS TO AN AMERICAN LADY. This is a great little book that's perfect for just opening up and landing on a page for some good reading. Lewis's letters are as good (and sometimes better IMO) than anything else he wrote. I thought this issue he raised in one letter from 1956 might be of interest some here:
"Problem: why are nuns nicer than monks and schoolgirls nicer than schoolboys, when women are not in general nicer than men? But perhaps you deny all three statements!"
I have never met a nun or a monk, but I did know plenty of schoolboys and girls in my time, and schoolgirls were nicer than boys (especially in our very young years), and I've also experienced in manhood that men are generally nicer than women.
Par example: not long ago at work I walked up to two women talking. They tore down every single man that walked by (who spoke politely to them each in turn, and each in turn was spoken to politely by them). I said to them, "Wow, women are really something else! You all found fault with every single man that walked by and had nothing good to say about any of them." They just laughed and agreed. I told them a man will generally find something good about any given woman, but women are not nearly as forgiving. Again, they laughed and agreed. I then walked away and was surely torn down in my turn.
"Problem: why are nuns nicer than monks and schoolgirls nicer than schoolboys, when women are not in general nicer than men? But perhaps you deny all three statements!"
I have never met a nun or a monk, but I did know plenty of schoolboys and girls in my time, and schoolgirls were nicer than boys (especially in our very young years), and I've also experienced in manhood that men are generally nicer than women.
Par example: not long ago at work I walked up to two women talking. They tore down every single man that walked by (who spoke politely to them each in turn, and each in turn was spoken to politely by them). I said to them, "Wow, women are really something else! You all found fault with every single man that walked by and had nothing good to say about any of them." They just laughed and agreed. I told them a man will generally find something good about any given woman, but women are not nearly as forgiving. Again, they laughed and agreed. I then walked away and was surely torn down in my turn.