My wife has a super sensitive sniffer, so I'm always mindful of what blend I choose when I'm in her presence. Since I'm exclusively an outdoor smoker, it's not a frequent occurrence, but when it does happen, I know what blends to favor, and which to avoid.
Generally, I'm in agreement with the consensus here on VAs. Very light, very inoffensive, and seeing as we have a horse, the hay smell is naturally in perfect alignment. Wifey has never complained about a VA room note, not once, and, somewhat oddly, not even an English one either. The only complaints I've gotten were of a couple excessively goopy aromatics, and some stronger VaPer blends. My own personal favorite non-aromatic tin and room note is Mac Baren Burley London Blend, with an honorable mention of Savinelli 140th Anniversary.
YMMV, as always.