I'm not preaching. Eat what you like, it doesn't effect me. What I am saying is, if you want to lose weight, you need to control your blood sugar before you start looking at fat or calories, otherwise, short of starvation, calorie counting won't make any difference.
If you don't need to lose weight, yes eat what you like in balance and moderation. And when I go to other people's houses I eat what's put in front of me. I'd never demand special treatment, though I rarely eat deserts because I don't have a sweet tooth anyway.
For context, I watched my father take a year to die very painfully from renal failure caused by type 2 diabetes, so I knew a little bit about blood sugar (though not how it related to weight gain) and I've been very conscious ever since about suffering the same fate myself.
This was brought home a year or so ago I was in poor health. I wasn't seriously overweight though I needed to lose a good inch off my waist and a stone in weight. But I couldn't sleep. I'd wake in the middle of the night with a racing metabolism, a pounding heart and a mouth full of blood. I felt weak and shaky and I had a blotchy face. Bearing in mind what happened to my dad, it was alarming. The tipping point came when I started getting massive blood pressure spikes. As in really dangerous ones like 200 over 100. At one point I had to go to casualty for observation because those figures are stroke or heart attack territory.
That's when I was asked questions about diet and lifestyle and I was directed towards the nutritionalist I mentioned earlier.
I'd recently been through a family bereavement and a major life change. I was stressed to the point of being mentally ill, drinking far too much alcohol and far too much caffeine. taking a step back it wasn't hard to see how these had combined.
So on medical advice I changed my diet, mainly to address my immediate health issues rather than my weight (which I just put down to too much beer). Initially I just cut out things that raised blood pressure and inflammation and increased intake of things that reduced it. The turnaround in how I felt and what I weighed was so dramatic I started looking into it more deeply, purely out of interest, and that's when I learned about the link between raised blood sugar and weight gain and the effects of ultra processed food on the immune system, cellular inflammation, the metabolism and the brain, and so much started making sense.
This whole subject has really taken off just recently in the UK and I've been amazed how far our collective understanding of basic nutrition has fallen in the last forty or fifty years since supermarkets established their monopoly and kids stopped being taught about cooking at school.
The fact that my "diet" - which is simply eating seasonally the natural foods my body was designed for rather than what the food industry wants to sell me - could be considered strict or extreme only reinforces this.