I'm not reading this whole thread, but I know from being social and hosting many wine tastings that women consider mixed drinks, women's drinks. This is 30somethings to fifty somethings.
I know that this place hosts many types of guys people, and if I have referred to mixed drinks as women's drinks, and it has upset someone, I will wok diligently not to offend you folks from all over the world with different gender signifiers, or non-binary people things.
But, if you come to a humidor here or a bar and ask for a vanilla cigar or a fruity drink, you may get laughed at. If this is a worry, probably best just to not come down here.
Funny story, my wife and I are hanging with friends at a humidor/bar just down the road. Live band, lots of dancing, that sort of cigar place. My wife does enjoy a good vanilla cigar from time to time, as so do most of the women that frequent. And, this big biker looking dude asks for help finding a flavored cigar. My wife and her friends all bust out laughing, and my wife says, "you want a tampon with that?" And, laughing and pointing ensues. And, I am the only guy at the table, with this embarrassed/enraged looking dude giving me the stink eye. I thought, 'oh crap, I'm going to have to fight this guy.' But, he eventually cracked a smile and joined in laughing.
I only have ever heard a man order straight drinks or beer. Maybe the occasional martini in a James Bond sort of way. Shaken not stirred. But, of course I have never heard of someone drinking gin by itself either. I have never heard of someone drinking a bloody Mary either, except of TV.
It was always explained to me that mixed drinks came about during prohibition to mask the poor quality alcohols, and they remained because women were the least likely genders to develop a taste for straight booze. So, fruity drinks equals women's drinks.... but maybe in some places, more open minded places, people don't bat an eye. I know that in New Orleans, I watch kids order those nasty Hurricane in those tall souvenir glasses, and of course by 1AM, you see them all puking their guts out in the streets. But, Hey, drink what you want.
I will just try to be more non-binary to keep with these changing times. I really don't want to insult you folks.