When you feel sad...got some news today that makes me worried,not for me but a loved one all I am doing is praying
What do you do
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I have a contemplative smoke alone. Gives me time to think. If there is nothing I can do, I give my support verbally.
Yeah I am dealing by drinking, guess it is making it worse and adding to my anxiety
Yeah, I wouldn't recommend drinking. Being able to focus is key to calming your mind.
Make few possible action plans. Always good to have good plans.
I know but right now I helps...enough of this what are you smoking and doing tonight
Prayer are good. I acknowledge and address the situation as best as possible, offer sympathies, condolences, or whatever is required , including assistance. That's about all one can do.
Talking about it here is a pretty good start mate, don't let the black dog in!
This is the answer. Buy more pipes. Honestly it makes me feel so much better.
Prayers for you and your loved one. I personally would not drink.I think it would be a good idea to ask for help from people who really love you. I send you much encouragement and strength.
Try to be an optimistic, positive support for your loved one, brother.
It depends well on the circumstances, but as a general rule, my manner of dealing with melancholy is to follow the disciplined Stoic routine that I have long since set for myself. By and large, impressions (i.e. the involuntary physical and emotional reaction to outside stimuli) are often beyond our control. What is in our control is our assent (i.e. how we respond to those impressions). It takes time and effort, but disciplining one's mind to, when possible, assess our situation and then to respond appropriately is a worthwhile endeavor. This is not to say that this is a practice in denying one's feelings or such; rather, it is the process where we domesticate our feelings so that our emotions and rationality act in concert, thus greatly increasing our ability to make right action and to enjoy or endure in proper measure the joys and sorrows that confront us.
Stoicism isn't for everyone, and it isn't perfect, either as a philosophy or a means of mental and emotional discipline. So, I don't want to sound like I am advocating for a perfect solution or that I'm going to bat for, say, Epictetus.
But it has helped me greatly. The tl;dr version is this: focus on that which you have real control over; act in accordance to the cardinal virtues; understand that our perception of things is often the cause of our joy and harm, and not necessarily the things in themselves.
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I try to refrain from giving unsolicited advice, but please do not drink when you feel sad. It's a junk cure. The only way to deal with anything in life is to confront it. Burying your feelings with a beer buzz, though entirely understandable, is not to your good. At best, you are only postponing having to deal with a harsh reality. At worst, you are planting the seeds for a self-destructive behavior.
Stoicism isn't for everyone, and it isn't perfect, either as a philosophy or a means of mental and emotional discipline. So, I don't want to sound like I am advocating for a perfect solution or that I'm going to bat for, say, Epictetus.
But it has helped me greatly. The tl;dr version is this: focus on that which you have real control over; act in accordance to the cardinal virtues; understand that our perception of things is often the cause of our joy and harm, and not necessarily the things in themselves.
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I try to refrain from giving unsolicited advice, but please do not drink when you feel sad. It's a junk cure. The only way to deal with anything in life is to confront it. Burying your feelings with a beer buzz, though entirely understandable, is not to your good. At best, you are only postponing having to deal with a harsh reality. At worst, you are planting the seeds for a self-destructive behavior.
Prayer is always my first stop. Then I try to get outside or at least exercise. Both appear to focus the energy/concern into something positive. I try to stay away from alcohol in times of trouble or melancoly.
I hope your friends situation improves.
I hope your friends situation improves.