Was Christmas As Stressful Back In The Day As It Is Now?

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didimauw

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Not Halloween, free candy and license to scare the shit out of kids. Oh, and kids' faces when they bite into a caramel covered onion.
I love Halloween. This year trick or treat was during a blizzard. In Nana's neighborhood we saw 3 other kids. Needless to say my daughter hit 4 houses and filled her bucket twice. "Oh you're so brave, here, take more"

But I was soaking wet in 15 minutes of walking.
 

BriarBrook

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Mar 8, 2022
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It's only as stressful as you let it be. Cut out the noise. Do what you want to do, not what you feel like you have to. If you are a believer, go to Mass. The most stressful part for me is worrying if I focused enough on Christ's Mass and conveyed the importance of that to my children.
 

blackpowderpiper

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Dec 19, 2018
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I refuse to get caught up in the stresses and strains of the holiday madness. For me, it is a time to give thanks, spend quality time with family and friends, smoke good tobacco, enjoy some good food and just generally relax and enjoy the festive season.

I don't understand why people allow themselves to get caught up in the madness and become so stressed. Christmas has become far too materialistic and so many people feel the need to spend money they don't really have on things that people don't need and/or even want.

I think folks would benefit by slowing down and focusing on the simple things in life.
 

HawkeyeLinus

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Oct 16, 2020
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Just asked the wife if she’d go with me on a quick trip out of town - one of the dept. heads I “manage” is in need of a couple retirement gifts I need to go pick up for a little celebration next week, there’s a nice shop where we can get all things cooking for our daughters, a coffee shop, a pipe/cigar shop (!!!), gun shop, huge golf shop (gift card from there for my guy), all in about 5 hours to get back and make sure the pups haven’t exploded.

Her Subaru has a CD player so we’ll enjoy some holiday music on the journey, and just chill this morning - she was all “I’ve got 3 hours of cleaning/grocery shopping, blah, blah, this morning” and I said, “If you can figure out how to get Linus to poop [he’s sometimes finicky about his defecation, i.e. some leaf was out of place, lol] let’s take a ride!”

She was all in and headed to the backyard now! Thought of this thread - spend a little time together! And you can watch her do all that crap anyway when you get home while you enjoy a bowl and listen to the stereo! :) 🙏✌️ Haha, bold talk I’ll regret.
 

Sam Gamgee

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I know everyone is wired differently and has their own set of circumstances but ultimately if it’s stressing you out you’re not doing it right.
I agree. This is true for life in general in the modern world. People have never been so burned out, worn out, stressed out, etc.
 
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Sam Gamgee

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I miss terribly getting a tree with wife and daughter. Decorating it was a family evening we all enjoyed. This is one of two times during the year I really, really miss my wife. Setting up and taking down were most enjoyable. Would that I could enjoy just one more time. Just a couple of hours out of a day and then kicking back and basking in the beauty of the tree and other household decoration. My wife and daughter reveled in the business leading up to the big day.

I truly envy you guys, even the resentful complainers, with family to share and enjoy the Christmas. Suck it up! It'll all come to an end way too soon.

Merry Christmas and Happy Hanukkah! It's not a greeting men, it's a wish to you and yours.
Here is some real perspective. God bless you, sir!
 

proteus

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May 20, 2023
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I was thinking the same thing. The same thing happens with everything. Roll the stone up the hill everyday. Pack the pipes and light them up everyday. The same thing. Until it's not the same. Then the world changes and the old days look better than today. The way things used to be. Before things changed. Which was the same thing it always was. At some point the realization occurs that routines give purpose and bring order to chaos and give meaning to the absurdity of life. With age, staying the same becomes harder and harder each day. To be able to do the same things in the same ways becomes more and more challenging each day. Appreciate the routine; the ability to live another day the same way each day was lived before.
 
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I was thinking about this as I watched my wife (yet again) go through all the motions of decorating our home for Christmas very stressed. It all just seems like more work than enjoyment.

When I was a kid I remember my grandmother baking cookies with her Christmas apron on, carols on the player, and the house filled with the warmth of the season. Of course I was a kid and didn’t see it all correctly, but it looked like she was having a lot more fun than my wife and most everyone else I know these days.

It seems like life in general is more rushed and stressful than in decades past. I hate it.

We will get the house all dolled up and then when Christmas is over, there’s this huge sigh as we look at packing it all up and getting it back into the attic — again!

It all kind of ruins the season for me. I long to sit by the glow of the tree with a pint and a pipe and soak it all in. But it seems like those times never come. It’s all rush, rush, rush.

Anybody else relate to this?
The 1946 movie "It's A Wonderful Life" portrays pretty clearly that people have always been stressed by family gatherings.
 

Steddy

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Sep 18, 2021
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Yes, the holiday season can be stressful for many reasons. I try to focus on the many positives the season has to offer. I am bah humbug or Christmas cheer at different times. To miss out entirely on the season is wasted time to me.

On a broader scale, this country could use more common threads and holiday seasons should be part of that. Christmas can be celebrated by all, regardless of belief and religion. It is a time to give, to give thanks, to be selfless, to look beyond yourself, to enjoy whatever rituals you associate with the season. Of course Christmas can mean different things to different people but to some extent it is a shared experience. For the country it should be an opportunity for the idea of E Pluribus Unum, “Out of many, one.”
 

ssjones

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My wife grew up with two alcoholic parents, so Christmas was always full of problems. She found her father beat to death (after a binge) when she was 14 years old. So, she over compensates for every 43 Christmases we've been together. For 25 years, we had one giant tree and train layout smack-dab in the middle of the family room. I couldn't wait to get it out in January. Seven years ago, at the birth of our granddaughter in Louisiana, live trees were no longer an option as we spend most holidays traveling, so we went artificial. With live trees, we'd spend hours and in at least two states finding the right one to cut down. No worries now with an artificial. This year, we have two trees - one in the family room and one with a train layout in the living room - so we can keep 3 year old grandchild #2 out of it when not directly supervised.... She spend about four days perfecting the new train layout. Happy wife....you know what they say.

I would say its less stressful now, then 20 years ago, when our daughters were young children. I remember numerous trips to stores to find presents, and standing in line at checkout for 30 minutes. Those days are over. With two grandchildren, we buy presents than ever, but order online via Amazon, etc. I spent about 10 minutes this year in a store, picking up a few items for my wife's stocking.
 

Sigmund

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Sep 17, 2023
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I also think the holidays get worse as we get older. We get jaded and realize that half of it is one big commercial scam. Its mostly more problems than its worth. If I want to get together with family I will just make a nice dinner or barbecue. The rest of the nonsense (unless you are a kid) is just a bunch of noise that created impossible expectations. Its an emotional con job.
 
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We had 2 friends plus 1 kid over for dinner/desert last night. We are in our decorated living room, Yule log on the TV, Christmas music playing low in the background.

We ate, exchanged some gifts, enjoyed each others company and played some table top games (Yahtzee, Trivia, etc).

I believe it ends up being whatever you make it out to be. If you go into it with a poor outlook, you may very well just get a poor, jaded holiday.