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I think this just depends on what kind of child(of your parents) you are. My parents pretty much respected any desicion I made. It was probably due to the fact that I had a job, paid college tuition myself, didn't get into too much trouble, maintained good grades, etc. My little brother, on the other hand, was not this way. How my parents would react to a desicion I made vs. my brother would be very different. Ulimately, I think things go much easier if you have a mutual trust and mutual respect relationship with the parents.
Man, you shouldn't have to apologize for asking a simple question like that. People twice your age ask much more ridiculous questions on these forums. Ask away, that's why we have forums.
lee05, no apologies necessary, you had a question and of course got answers of all kinds. On forums using the written word, there is no context or body language for everyone to read or see. What seems funny to me can be an insult to someone else. So take what we say with a grain of salt, use what you determine is of benefit and ignore the rest.
I wish you the best in handling your situation and I personally did not take what you said and your question as "childish." You are young and needed some input and had the guts to ask the question.
I wish you the best in handling your situation and I personally did not take what you said and your question as "childish." You are young and needed some input and had the guts to ask the question.
If, in your parents' view, smoking pipe tobacco is really that big of a deal...if it really matters that much and there is that much emphasis put on it as if it's something of profound significance so that you don't know how to broach the subject with them...then the real problem in this situation is a disconnect from reality IMO.
Of all the possible things you might do that your parents should rightly be concerned about, pipe tobacco smoking shouldn't even be on the radar IMO. But unfortunately we live in a society where there is a massive distortion of reality regarding many things, and if your parents subscribe to the collective hysteria surrounding tobacco use, then I agree you'd probably be better off moving out than attempting to acclimate them to it.
Of all the possible things you might do that your parents should rightly be concerned about, pipe tobacco smoking shouldn't even be on the radar IMO. But unfortunately we live in a society where there is a massive distortion of reality regarding many things, and if your parents subscribe to the collective hysteria surrounding tobacco use, then I agree you'd probably be better off moving out than attempting to acclimate them to it.
Are you living there because you are a full time student? Are you employed and contribute to the household? Money, yard work, etc.. or are you living there because it comfortable? Mom does your laundry, cooking, cleaning etc. Do you know they are hard-core anti tobacco? Get yourself set-up on the deck with a pipe (nice aero) when they come home let them approach you. If mom is doing your laundry I suspect you smoking won't me much of a surprise.
I didn't take your question as childish or immature. It just appears to me that you are respectful of your parents and wasn't sure what the best way to broach the subject with them. In my opinion anyone who gave you a sarcastic answer or tried to belittle you in anyway would be the more immature part of this discussion. It seems that a lot of people have jumped to the conclusion that your parents will throw a fit and demand you leave if you smoke. I personally saw nothing in your original post that would make me jump to that conclusion. Whatever you decide I wish you the best.
I don't think anyone's assuming they would "throw a fit and demand he move out". The assumption is that he's afraid they would be very concerned and unhappy about his pipe smoking and that it would cause conflict with them. Why else would he be soliciting opinions on a forum about how to reveal it to them? And in today's climate of hysteria surrounding all things tobacco related, it doesn't take much reading between the lines to make that assumption.
Lee. We have to assume neither of your parents smoke since you didn't mention it. I would leave one of your pipes out on a nightstand or someplace where one of your parents could happen upon it and then see what their reaction is. Meanwhile you can just act like it's really no big deal. Once the subject comes up, just talk to them and explain what got you interested in pipe smoking to begin with and that is is safer than cigarettes, doesn't stink as bad as cigars, and it's a legal substance. You can also offer up to your mother that you won't smoke inside the house or take up alcohol.
Brother, it could be much, much worse. A pipe used to be seen as a tool for intellectuals to help formulate ideas and theories. Just tell them that you're and old soul if they say anything, but don't hide it. A pipe is nothing to be ashamed about.
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