Smoking Widow

[allan]

My wife tells me last night that she feels she is a 'smoking widow'. We went out to dinner with family and as soon as I got home I went downstairs telling her 'I'm going to smoke, just for 1/2 hour or so'.
Well, I guess time flew, and by the time I got upstairs she informed me that she was a smoking widow. She went upstairs disgusted with me.
Well, not disgusted, really. But I thought that was funny.


Allan

 

[numbersix]

It's an age old problem: hunting widows, golf widows, now smoking widows. What can ya do?
So far my wife has been very supportive of my pipe smoking, even when I go down to the basement for a smoke - so I am grateful for that.

 

[snewton]

Pipe forum widows...

 

[papipeguy]

Sounds like my house.

 

[topd]

I found out early that she was referring to me 'leaving' the room.... stop making her a widow, and

open a window to smoke upstairs.....

 

[kanaia]

Sounds like a cry for attention to me. I would just turn it around and make myself a widower to one of her hobbies.

 

[allan]

I just love the wit and humor of this forum.
Maybe, someday, I'll get a life

 

[kashmir]

Here's a suggestion: Both of you go outside on the porch where you can enjoy the pipe in her company. Or if its cold, stay inside and crack a window. If needed, install a window fan so the smoke is pulled out. My wife is cool with the pipe as long as it ain't Latakia. Course that's all I smoke. Hehe. You can always try Captain Black White. They usually go for that.

 

[teufelhund]

+1 for CBW my girl loves the smell of that stuff... Not my fave but I can smoke it anywhere in the house.

 

[crazypipe]

I think it's fear and love , and she wants forever.

 

[pruss]

Solution = Bring her home her first pipe?
Flipside = You may need to take up one of the following: scrapbooking, stamping, knitting/crochet, axe-throwing (or ducking as the case may be)... you get the drift
-- Pat

 

[trailspike48]

Just tell her not to be so dramatic. WOn't work, of course, it'll just piss her off for an entire day, but that's what I'd do. Probably why my wife no longer lives with me

I'm like you Mike. After the third wife booted me I figured out that I wasn't the only one chosing wrong, they did as well. I have now decided I'm to dysfunctional for a wife and now it's just me and a dog. Like my dad used to tell me, "Play to your strengths and leave your weaknesses alone". Good advice, but it did take me a few lumps to figure it out.

 

[ssjones]

I get the same response occasionally. I travel a lot, so I'm out of town during the week. In the winter, I smoke only in my workshop and of course she doesn't hang out there. I try to make sure I have a good balance of time with her as it is just the two of use in the house now. I'm a "happy wife, happy Life" kind of husband, so I'm easy to get along with. If I don't smell like an old pipe, that has fringe benefits as well... Once more reasonable weather hits, we spend all of our time out on the patio, where I can smoke as much as I like, so come on Spring! Good luck, a good marriage is all about the right balance.

 

[tbradsim1]

Mine did the same thing to me, said you go to your pipe room and don"t come out, go back to your room, now this is a women I "ve been married to for almost 50 yrs, she does volunterwork at a nurseing home, loves shopping , goes to the casino all the time, I stay on the farm, don"t like to go to town, got all I need at home, so I tell her alright I"m going in the closet in the corner and call me when you need me , I go in the closet and stay for a while, she says are you crazy, I say yes the fellows on the forum know you won"t sew pockets on my underware, you don"t want me to smoke my pipe, so I"m gonna stay in the corner of the closet , that's all I"m good for , she starts laughing and says Go smoke your pipe, I say thank you Mam. The old cajun

 

[zonomo]

I love that story Old Cajun - God bless ya !

 

[bobpnm]

Old Cajun!

 

[trailspike48]

Old Cajun, you obviously figured out how to get along. My life would have been much smoother if I had your tact. I'm a little pig headed and still haven't learned. So I'll just continue to live with a dog. I haven't found a new puppy yet, I'm still remembering and honoring my old friend Mick. With a special nod to Ki as well.

 

[mirain]

I'm feeling grateful. My girl likes me smoking and enjoys the room note. Why am I grateful? I mostly smoke English and latakia heavy blends.

 

[allan]

Brad
Fifty years! That is incredible. Especially in this throw away world. I've been married for 37 years now (lived with her for 2 years before that). I wish I could say it was easy, but man, no IT WAS NOT!
Alot of compromises on both ends. Almost 1 year of separation 1 year ago...
Must say,it the long run, it was worth it.
She has always been good about my smoking until she became allergic about 2 years ago. Now I'm relegated to the lower level, but hey, compared to some, I have it great!
Allan

 

[cynyr]

I think it's fear and love , and she wants forever.

Good call.