I think I've told the story here of catching my pants on fire (flammable cow manure dust that flashed and then was out in an instant). All because a wooden match broke off in striking and fell to my feet. From then, on, I use wooden matches only at home, and a Corona lighter (needs only one hand) while driving.
Yes, I do smoke a pipe on trips over an hour. I have a couple of smaller pipes (Caminetto and Savinelli) as well as cobs that I like for this. I used to smoke cigars also. My 5-year old Trailblazer does not smell of pipe smoking after a day or two.
As for the danger of smoking with kids present, I think this is greatly overrated. When I was a kid my dad smoked Chesterfields in the car, with the windows UP and I was not affected. I will oppose any law that seeks to ban smoking in cars, with kids present or not.