She Would Have Been 46 Today

[mso489]

Someone said, death ends a life but not a relationship, and that seems to be true.

That is a haunting photo booth portrait. My current wife and I went to Chartre from Paris and missed the late train and ended up staying in a monastery. After our beautiful but strange trip, we spotted a photo booth and sat for a picture, and it has a different aura -- we were in our sixties -- but was both weary and joyous, caught in the same sort of existential moment.

 

[jpmcwjr]

Thank you for posting that, a lovely and heartfelt tribute.

Best wishes,

John

 

[tbradsim1]

No words, it's so sad!

 

[musicman]

I'm so sorry to hear this, embers, even though it happened many many years ago. The grief from a loss like that, especially at such a young age, is something we carry with us for the rest of our lives. Beautiful picture, and a beautiful tribute. Thinking of you this evening, man.

 

[lochinvar]

I'm sorry for your loss. A guy I like wrote "... it is arguable whether anyone ever truly recovers from anything.”
For me a picture of a friend, a dream where your papaw is there and you remember he's dead and run and hug his neck and don't let go, just watching your child and thinking how much fun your sister would have had spoiling her, and the pain is back and fresh as the moment the knife went in your heart.
Here's hoping the pain sinks back down where it normally lurks.

 

[Chasing Embers]

A heartfelt thanks to all of you of the forum. Most years pass and feelings for her always rise on certain days of the year, but for some reason it was just too much to bear this year and I needed to let it out somehow. As loving and understanding as my wife is, it would be unfair to drop this on her after everything we've weathered together and worked for.

 

[Wellington]

I cannot imagine, I'm so sorry. I'm haunted by the fear of death these days; losing my son, wife, or me leaving them fatherless/husbandless. I hope you have found some degree of healing.

 

[dino]

As we Greek Orthodox chant at our Memorial Services:
Αιωνία η μνήμη
May her memory be eternal.

 

[brian64]

Sorry this happened Duane. Some things are never fully in the past...and do occasionally have a more potent effect on the present than usual.

I will echo lochinvar's comment:

Here's hoping the pain sinks back down where it normally lurks.

 

[olkofri]

A heartfelt thanks to all of you of the forum. Most years pass and feelings for her always rise on certain days of the year, but for some reason it was just too much to bear this year and I needed to let it out somehow. As loving and understanding as my wife is, it would be unfair to drop this on her after everything we've weathered together and worked for.

She doesn't read your posts, does she?

 

[Chasing Embers]

She doesn't read your posts, does she?

Really wouldn't be an issue if she did. She knows about it though, certain days of the year I take time to be alone.

 

[kcghost]

I can't imagine the sorrow of losing a beloved spouse.

 

[madox07]

Hey man, so sorry for this ...

 

[mikethompson]

My heart goes out to you Duane right now. I can't imagine what you are going through, and what you have gone through in silence.

I truly wish all the best for you moving forward.

 

[BROBS]

I feel your pain in a way bro. My best friend passed away 13 years ago now. Still think about Seth almost every day. There’s no great way to get over something like this besides finding other outlets of distraction. Here’s to hoping the pain subsides. ?

 

[Seamaster]

Touching thread; sorry for your loss, chasingembers.

 

[hawky454]

She was very beautiful. Thanks for sharing that story. I can’t even imagine what that must of been like.

 

[pantsBoots]

So sorry to read this - simply cannot imagine. I hope you're taking time to smoke something special and breathe the air today. Glad you've got a family at home and children to brighten your day a little.

 

[sumusfumus]

The photo of this couple was taken twenty-six years ago when they returned from their honeymoon and decided a photo booth looked like fun. Both of them freshly twenty years old and nothing but big plans of future and family before them. Six months after the picture was taken, the husband was laying his beautiful young wife to rest and the person he was simply ceased to exist. Today she would have been 46 and even though he managed to carry on without her, every October 17th he lights a candle for her birthday.

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Very sad. Truly, this exile, is a vale of tears.

Can you translate the rune script? Just curious.....

 

[cigrmaster]

Very sorry for your loss.