RIP My Beloved Sister

[tallguy]

All my thoughts go to you buddy. My mom died of a massive stroke nearly 10 years ago, and I have never talked about it with my younger brother since then. It still hurts today when I think about her since we were very close. I should talk to my brother about her, maybe that could help with the greiving (sorry if I just made up a word, I am french speaking).
Good luck and peace!

 

[hedgehog]

My sincere condolences to you, brother. I will remember you and your sister in my prayers.

 

[cigrmaster]

Thanks guys for your warm sentiments. I am dealing with it a little better these last few days because of all your great posts, talking about it has helped.

 

[crazypipe]

"I have never been good at writing in cards, but I don't want that to keep me from letting you know the deep sympathy I feel for you at this time."

 

[okiescout]

Harris, I am very sorry for your loss and the obvious pain that has followed it. I have buried 3 sons. One at 11 with cancer and 2 in 2009 in a car wreck so severe we could not get to look at the youngest boys body. We buried my Mom two years ago, but I have never lost a brother or sister yet. I can only say as you know, I am sure, time helps to dull the pain. I do not think we ever truly get over the loss, but we build a scar around it. One thing I would say to you is to never let guilt bring you down. I believe this is an insidious being that seeks to bring us even more pain by trying to convict us we have in some way failed in our relationship with the one we have lost. You loved your sister very much, that is evident. I did not know her but it sounds like you were very close. I am quite sure, if that was so, she would never want her death to bring you pain, due to guilt, even for a moment. Thank you for sharing your intimate thoughts with us, I know that takes courage.

 

[johnnyreb]

Okiescout,
My condolences to you & your loss as well. I can't even begin to imagine what it would be like to lose a child entering the prime of their lives, let alone losing 3! What a terrible burden to bear. We have family friends who lost their youngest, a 15 yr old daughter who snuck out of the house one night when her parents thought she was asleep in her upstairs bedroom. Imagine their shock & disbelief when the County sheriff knocked at their door to tell them she had been killed along with her friends in a car wreck. I can't even imagine.
I hope that both their mother & you accept & recover from your grief.

 

[sjpipesmoker]

I'm in the mental health field. I work with inmates that have mental illness. It's a tough struggle to live with and a tougher struggle to have a family member with mental illness.

Sorry for your loss... I'll smoke the finest ACID cigar for you.

 

[maxx]

I can't begin to feel your sorrow, and there are no words to lessen your anguish. Do you know about the book by C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed?
"The death of a beloved is an amputation," he wrote in it.
Here is a link to a pdf of it.
https://korycapps.files.wordpress.com/2012/11/cs-lewis-a-grief-observed.pdf