My wife has never complained about my clothes, but I hit my jacket with fabreze from time to time, just to be courteous. My wife is a non-smoker.
1: Smoking Jacket/ sweater / hoodie / whatever. I'got two alternating. One in laundry, one on my chair in my office. When smoking, don the zip-up fleece.
I second Mic. I wear a light flanel shirt when I smoke my Pipe. Not because Stacy is yelling about the smell but out of consideration to her.