Need help convincing the wife of PAD

[beefeater33]

But $170 worth of pipes and I fear the wrath of the living room couch for a month.

30 days on the couch?? No big deal, you will have the new pipes to break in................. ::

 

[jpmcwjr]

Putting her out on the couch seems fair for over controlling.
But I do wish you luck and peace. And more pipes.

 

[frozenchurchwarden]

This sounds like another standard example of "never discussed finances before marriage".
But it's never too late.

 

[metalheadycigarguy]

When you find a good answer that works let me know.

 

[sparrowhawk]

While there are many times I wish romance found me, this post reminds me why I'm glad I remained a bachelor.

 

[maxx]

You don't mention how many pipes you already have. I've got only seven Briars and since I smoke quite a lot, this isn't enough to really let a pipe rest for optimum flavor. Plus, not every pipe has the same bowl size, so some give shorter smokes than others. For my longest smoke, I've got a large G sized Billiard. The shortest is from a Dublin. I dedicate some pipes to English blends, and in some I'll allow OTC blends. Whether ghosting is real or not, I abide by it in practice. Straight pipes are a different aesthetic experience than bent pipes. This is a reason to have both types, unless you dislike one type. Smoking a pipe isn't like cigarettes where every smoke is the same unless you switch brands. Some pipes, you may not want to take out in public for one reason or another. Some might be clenchers and some not. Rustication vs smooth feels different in the hand: another aesthetic difference. There are many reasons to have many pipes. At some point, those reasons aren't going to be sufficient, and you'll want a pipe because it's not like any pipe you already have. The argument will be that variety makes you happy.

 

[tslex]

You might do better not to order another pipe right now, but to instead purchase a good, stout wooden hairbrush.

 

[pipestud]

Down here in Texas the men only ask their wives for permission to... well, right now I just can't think of anything. Man up, dude. :wink:

 

[edgreen]

I was going through a lot of negatives when I went back to pipes after years of cigars; neurological pain that deteriorated to the point I had to retire, the loss of my mother, and several other things. My wife was so supportive that she wanted to buy me a pipe. She spent over $300 for it ( a beautiful Tsuge). I have built up a wonderful collection since with Rads, Weavers, Thiles, Herbaughs, etc and I still have not spent that much on a pipe thanks to estates and wonderful people like Pipestud.

I haven't asked permission once and she still has given me my most expensive pipe. Of course, I feed her hobbies also and probably have spent as much on them as on my own. I think of marriage more as a mutual support network than as a system of checks and balances. Maybe that's the difference. Good luck.

 

[Perique]

I'm with my ole friend tslex. Let's have some honesty, guys. There is no "mutual". There is a hierarchy. To paraphrase the old standby: there's a sucker in every deal. If you don't know who the sucker is, it's probably you.
The good news is, hierarchy is informed by millennia of evolution. It keeps everyone happy and content. It's only in the absence of hierarchy that humans go sideways.
But in the modern West, we have the luxury of reveling in the unnatural, the contrived, and the delusional. For the time being.

 

[sablebrush52]

Buy her a pipe.