Mid-life Crisis... What You've Got
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Would rather have a motorcycle, far less drama........Oh wait I do have a motorcycle.
My point I guess is that in a cathardic moment such as the moment you come to realize your eminent death, and that nothing you have or have done matters. Because what ever you have done for the most part is already forgotten and you will no longer be around to reinforce your remembrance. That in a few short years you will be gone and your memory will fade from those you love. You do what? Something utterly pointless like buy a stupid car.
My point I guess is that in a cathardic moment such as the moment you come to realize your eminent death, and that nothing you have or have done matters. Because what ever you have done for the most part is already forgotten and you will no longer be around to reinforce your remembrance. That in a few short years you will be gone and your memory will fade from those you love. You do what? Something utterly pointless like buy a stupid car.
I'm young still so I probably don't truly understand but I'm in my early thirties and I know the "middle age" is coming up quick. I have a wonderful wife (who puts up with my full-bore descent into the world of pipes and tobacco), a great life and a family I wouldn't trade for the world. Right now I don't really worry about it and try to live life with no regrets. If I can make another person's life a brighter place while doing it then that's a nice bonus.
"...my life...isn't about getting and having, but doing and being."
What a great quote. I salute you.
What a great quote. I salute you.
@Locopony +1, you've hit the nail on the head. You should read some Fydor Dostoevsky novels, it's borderline therapy to read it, life is agony usually, you work like a dog, then you die. Then you go to Purgatory for a while. Hopefully this Heaven place exists.
What do I've got from probably not even a mid life crisis as I'm about 4 years too young for it still? Salt and pepper hair, bad knees, bad back, arthritis in my pinky, getting something for your mid life crisis is so cheesy, I'll never be one of those douchebags driving a sportscar with bad plugs and a fake tan thinking I'm being cool, because I know better. I'm just going to get bitter, and know that all the young girls are laughing at me or accuse them of trying to get at my money if they so much as even say hi and try to get a drink out of me. And i'll be smoking my pipe.
Hope you guys realize I'm kidding about the yacht, right? I'm lucky these days to scrape the pennies for a few tins or a stem change on an old workhorse. New pipe? Hell, I just change the stems so I think I have a new pipe, he says as he busily stuffs the silverware in his pockets as the ship goes down. Lovely image loco.
The true cost of the extra expenses of yacht ownership is never fully appreciated until its too late. I hope you can get out of the hole and buy some new pipes, or sell your yacht.
Kashmir's yacht is unsinkable, and filled with pipe nails.
I'm going through a quater life crisis I bought a new dodge challenger,$5000 on guns and bought a $160,000 house lol
@locopony
Man you got it bad. I'm sorry your life is so miserable. Perhaps with luck, you can develop "old timers" disease and forget all the past and be able to focus on better times in the future.
Man you got it bad. I'm sorry your life is so miserable. Perhaps with luck, you can develop "old timers" disease and forget all the past and be able to focus on better times in the future.
Its not depressing at all. When you realized the truth of the matter, you can get on with things that add real value to your existence. Things like values family making sure your legacy will be good and last. By spreading happiness and joy where ever you go. Now I know this thread has not been happy or joyful to many of you, but to first serve the truth in a thread like this one does serve happiness.
As you see our good friend Young here has buried himself in a huge debt that will soon make him feel burdened and miserable. Because all these wonderful things have no return to give. Hr will then look back on the words of this thread and ask, why keep it up? Then I will answer that even in a prison a person can do good to others and cultivate happiness.
So stop polishing the brass and start playing the fiddle. And lovers will dance, friends will drink toasts, enemies will let by gones be by gones, and children will play, but you cant do this if you are a slave to material things, and fear the future. Embrace mortality and death as sweet rest, and learn to lighten your load.
Appreciate the little things, hold the door for elders and ladies, grieve with those who grieve and celebrate with those who celebrate. Forgive and forget holding a grudge will burn out you soul. Hate only evil not those who are trapped by it. Love everything that supports life, and happiness. Forget materialism, debt is a horrible task master who demands from you even when you have nothing left to give.
As you see our good friend Young here has buried himself in a huge debt that will soon make him feel burdened and miserable. Because all these wonderful things have no return to give. Hr will then look back on the words of this thread and ask, why keep it up? Then I will answer that even in a prison a person can do good to others and cultivate happiness.
So stop polishing the brass and start playing the fiddle. And lovers will dance, friends will drink toasts, enemies will let by gones be by gones, and children will play, but you cant do this if you are a slave to material things, and fear the future. Embrace mortality and death as sweet rest, and learn to lighten your load.
Appreciate the little things, hold the door for elders and ladies, grieve with those who grieve and celebrate with those who celebrate. Forgive and forget holding a grudge will burn out you soul. Hate only evil not those who are trapped by it. Love everything that supports life, and happiness. Forget materialism, debt is a horrible task master who demands from you even when you have nothing left to give.
The pendulum swings emotionally on this thread it seems. I spent 20 years in a marriage that the only thing positive to come out of it was my two beautiful daughters. The second marriage was supposed to be greener pastures but turned out to be the Gobi Desert. During my second marriage I got a 2006 Mustang GT, hence my handle, my second ex hated that car and would not ride in it. Fortunately she cut me loose and made me a free agent and thanks to that car it enabled me to break the ice with my third and final wife. She is the jewel of my life and I love her more each day. All of the crises in my life have made me a stronger person and opened up new doors for me as I prayed so fervently for God to deliver me from those awful times. As I get older my experiences help me to help others, such as my adult children, that they will not make the same mistakes I did. Yea right!!! I enjoy my grandchildren now and it's more pleasant to be around my daughters now that time has passed from the divorce 12 years ago. Sometimes I do fall into a funk and think like some of the things locopony speaks of but I try like hell to get out of that because as much as I fear for my grandchildren's future I also hope and pray that they can have a better life than us.
Actually all professional help will do will give you pills to dull you to the point where life is bearable because you're basically numb to everything. Once you come to the realization that all happiness is only temporary and embrace the fact that life is suffering, I find it much easier to get through it, rather than expecting everything to be sushine, lollipops, and rainbows. I see my Priest when I want professional help in the confessional, it's a lot more productive than sitting in a doctors office on a couch and him/her saying I see, while writing notes occasionally.
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