Most men are comfortable staying in the standard deviation of what is expected of being a men.
When they are are daring, they might swerve into the bottom lane of the next SD. But woe upon them that dare to make their own lanes.
I go back to what I keep saying, "One must learn to be comfortable in their own skin and at the same time confident that any skin they might choose to put on is in fact their own skin."
When I walk into a party, my thoughts are just about me - so are everyone else's thoughts. LOL.