Furious!!!!!
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Marriage is strictly between a man and his bride.........Courtney should know everything though.
You can choose you're wife but not your inlaws. :D
You can choose you're wife but not your inlaws. :D
What is wrong with people? Forget them, the obviously get their jollies from creating havoc with other people. Don't pay them no attention and write them out of your life if you can. I am sorry you had to go thru that, those women were definitely wrong.
F 'em. All that matters is the love between your woman and you bro. But yeah I would definitely talk to her about it. I've been called a lot of things by a lot of people and, to tell you the truth, I never really gave any of it much mind. long as your doing the right thing by that guy in the mirror every day you are doing alright.
Just wallpaper your house like mine. They won't bother you anymore.
The one on the door says, please knock before entering (last warning) in English and Spanish.
The one on the door says, please knock before entering (last warning) in English and Spanish.
Joke 'em if they can't take a feck.
Don't mean nothing. Drive on!
EDIT TO ADD: My wife comes from a VERY tight Cuban family. I had no family when we met. Some of her huge family loved me from the start, a few (esp. one younger sister) not so much.
The key was that my wife knew -- and told them -- that from the day we married, HER family was the two of us -- and then our boys. We outlasted the sister and a couple other holdouts and all is well now.
If your bride takes the same approach -- that you two are her family -- and makes that clear to the others, you'll be good to go. "This is my husband whom I love and respect. You do not have to love him, but treat him with respect or do not expect to see me." If she is not ready to do that, she may not be quite ready to be a wife. Hope it goes well for you.
Don't mean nothing. Drive on!
EDIT TO ADD: My wife comes from a VERY tight Cuban family. I had no family when we met. Some of her huge family loved me from the start, a few (esp. one younger sister) not so much.
The key was that my wife knew -- and told them -- that from the day we married, HER family was the two of us -- and then our boys. We outlasted the sister and a couple other holdouts and all is well now.
If your bride takes the same approach -- that you two are her family -- and makes that clear to the others, you'll be good to go. "This is my husband whom I love and respect. You do not have to love him, but treat him with respect or do not expect to see me." If she is not ready to do that, she may not be quite ready to be a wife. Hope it goes well for you.
1) don't let it bother you. People will talk, no matter what.
2) even with your fiancée, approach it carefully. I don't know what relationship Courtney has with her mom's friends, but sometimes it can be dangerous terrain
3) what matters is the relationship between you and Courtney. Those women are not part of your marriage, so f-em.
On a lighter note, I agree with Baron, punch something softer than your fist. A window pane doesn't work ... Personal experience :rofl:
2) even with your fiancée, approach it carefully. I don't know what relationship Courtney has with her mom's friends, but sometimes it can be dangerous terrain
3) what matters is the relationship between you and Courtney. Those women are not part of your marriage, so f-em.
On a lighter note, I agree with Baron, punch something softer than your fist. A window pane doesn't work ... Personal experience :rofl:
Nothing is as important in this life as those you share love with.You can't change small minded biased people.Don't let the upset you.Rise above all of their ignorance.Go on with your life.
Confide in Courtney. The two of you must also agree to elevate your relationship above the level of friends and relatives disapproval. It is true that when you marry a woman, you also marry her family and friends. Again, it must be the relationship of the two of you above everyone else. Relationship "first"! I went through something similar. My wife was more pissed-off about it than I was. She wrote a "hate-letter" to the the person who voiced their disapproval. That was good enough for me. We've been married 17 years. We are doing just fine. The person that caused the problem remains an ass!
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It has already all been said mate. Let your Wife to be know, in no uncertain terms, the exact conversation you had with the 3 "Ladies". While remaining calm, ask her what she thinks of her Moms friends approaching you in this manner. If she is all for you she will be in defence of you. If she is in defence of her Moms friends, then I see trouble in the future. I feel confident all will be fine as you seem to be an outstanding guy.
When I was 21 I marred my wife. I was told by several of her family it would last a year, and I wasn’t worth her time. 36 years later, 2 of her sisters are divorced, 1 more is dealing with her husband’s affair and the last is stuck in a loveless marriage with 2 kids. I have just retired selling my share of a company I co-started 14 years ago, that has a yearly gross sales of 22 million. Show them all, and tell them to pound sand.
Saddly there are dumb shits like this out there. Even more saddly in this case, your soon to be wife will have to make the stand for you, because you can't cause even more problems with her family. Any attempt to face them down could cause problems between you and your betrothed.
You are are not trash! You are an American hero ,and a good man. She is lucky to have you and you like wise her.
Material things maketh not a person, but the character of thy heart.
Once there was a beautiful tree that stood proud in the center of the forest. That tree was envied by the others for its beautiful spring blooms, and broad green branches. Even the squirels, and birds fussed and fought among themselves over who would make their nests in this fantastic tree. One day the winds blew and the rains pounded the forest. Many wondered who would survive this tempest, and feared. When it was over the Once beautiful tree had fallen to the storm and took many around it down, and even the squirrels and birds who had fought to make their nest in this tree were killed. Those who witnessed this mighty fall stood in amazment to see that the core of this, so beautiful tree was rotted and black. It was this lack of core that cause the tree to have no root strong enough to keep it during the storm.
You are are not trash! You are an American hero ,and a good man. She is lucky to have you and you like wise her.
Material things maketh not a person, but the character of thy heart.
Once there was a beautiful tree that stood proud in the center of the forest. That tree was envied by the others for its beautiful spring blooms, and broad green branches. Even the squirels, and birds fussed and fought among themselves over who would make their nests in this fantastic tree. One day the winds blew and the rains pounded the forest. Many wondered who would survive this tempest, and feared. When it was over the Once beautiful tree had fallen to the storm and took many around it down, and even the squirrels and birds who had fought to make their nest in this tree were killed. Those who witnessed this mighty fall stood in amazment to see that the core of this, so beautiful tree was rotted and black. It was this lack of core that cause the tree to have no root strong enough to keep it during the storm.
That's awesome. It must mean your conversation went well. I hope this action mitigates the sting you felt from the three self-important nobody morons and the obvious fictitious and fatuous nature of the bullsh*t they dropped on your shoes. Your imminent wife sounds like a real spitfire, if you don;t mind my saying so. And congratulations if I neglected to say so earlier.
I;m not sure if you listen to Dropkick Murphys (an Irish punk band from Boston) but they have a song called "Deeds Not Words." Not their best song but the sentiment is true.
I;m not sure if you listen to Dropkick Murphys (an Irish punk band from Boston) but they have a song called "Deeds Not Words." Not their best song but the sentiment is true.
Apparently my fiance knows words I didn't think she would ever say! LOL don't piss off a pregnant woman!
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