First of all, my prayers are with you and your sister.
Three years ago my wife's Grandmother spent about a month in the hospital before passing away from cancer. While her family (all that's left are women) would pack the hospital room, I would do what I could, then seek solace at Just For Him in Springfield, Missouri. They have a fantastic lounge area in the back where you'll find everyone from truck drivers to doctors to college kids taking some time out and having a smoke. The community in that room is really good.
When it came time to go back to St. Louis, I realized that our good B&M's still didn't have anything like Just For Him, so I started the Viking Pipe Club of Saint Louis, so that we could experience it at least every few weeks. Now Springfield also has The Albatross and St. Louis has....well, we're still working on it.