I'm still trying to get consistent, repeatable results, but the three pinch method has never worked for me. A lot of the advice of the experienced smokers in this thread proves to be true as my pipe smoking journey goes on. Don't overthink it, relax, and fill your pipe the way you want. I either do the codger scoop, or pour it to the rim and give it a light pat, and light it.
The whole point is to enjoy yourself.