I expect you to stand by what you said in some capacity, insofar as I expect that you yourself feel that your relationship with tobacco is best described as an addiction. I'm not trying to convince you that you are not addicted at all, and it's certainly not my prerogative to do so. You body is smarter than I am in what it wants-- but that's basically what I'm trying to put forth. I'm not trying to tell you that your experience is wrong, but provide reason enough to think that's it's a subjective
What you project, though, is that everyone else is in denial about the nature of their relationship with tobacco, based on your own subjective and intuitive relationship with tobacco. What I've tried to do here is supply enough material to actually substantiate some reasons why everybody is different in this respect, and not just "Well, some people have the right genes", or something else that is generally just a token admission. Some people can moderate extremely well, and other people can't. But there are a lot of factors in that. A few decades of prior cigarette smoking, whether you inhale at all, underlying health problem that the body is trying to self medicate, emotional/psychological trauma and accompanying brain chemistry changes, etc.
Schizophrenics essentially all smoke heavily (90% or so, if I recall correctly), and there is a lot of material out there about how tobacco effects the dopaminergic functions of the brain, the MAO-I effects, and it's propensity to suppress serotonin (which is chronically elevated in schizophrenics, some scientists say even that "serotonergic overdrive" is the cause). In other words, it's an intuitive anti-depressant, and very efficient one at that.
I'm not just going on and on to proclaim "health benefits" from smoking, although it's assuredly true there are some (in addition to risks), but to further the idea that self-medication with tobacco is undeniably true, and that self medication is a confounding factor. And that addiction and self medication can exist individually. Some people chronically self medicate and cannot live without it (if they are married, for example :lol: ). Other people use it much more sparingly based on the lack of need to, and use it either more for the ritualistic effects (in pipe and cigar smoking), or in addition to that for self-medication in an exploratory, outward way, as opposed to a reactionary, adaptive way to deal with stress or illness (physical, mental, etc. as I have detailed here in previous posts) ala cigarette smoking or chronic habitual tobacco use of any kind.
So I do acknowledge that tobacco can be addictive (who doesn't), but I also acknowledge that it sometimes isn't, and have tried to explain my thought process regarding why that is, and can be, and that it isn't just random, but very tied to tangible factors. I have defined, or attempted to define, what comes to my mind when the word addiction is used, and what it means to me and what it doesn't. It is, undeniably, a vague term, that is pervasive in a society that doesn't really have any intuitive knowledge of physiology. This is evident by the sheer number of things that are being labeled "addictive"-- sugar is the latest and greatest (fraud, that is). It seems the only criteria to be met for a substance to be labeled addictive, is that the human body desires it.
So that I do acknowledge-- tobacco has a draw for many people. But what I hope I have explained, or at least sufficiently touched upon, is that "draw" does not equate to "addiction", based on the sheer evidence for the self-medication theory. In that paradigm, tobacco is not the initiator, but the response, or the answer to a problem (a great many different problems, it does seem). That's the only answer that satisfies me as to why some people can do it at will, and others are continually drawn to it, rather than mystery genes or simple denial.