Children and smoking
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Without getting into a rant, I can only speak from personal experience of how I was raised and how I attempted to raise my children.
My dad raised two sets of children. My sis and I were the first relay my younger brothers followed 8 and 10 years later. My dad was tough. Don't do this don't do that. He would not let us touch a candy cigarette, bubble gum cigar, there was a long list of don'ts. What he and my mom did right was give us a comfortable home life with love and moral conviction that they lived.
I think all those no's were what spurred my determination to try many things I should have left alone once I was out on my own at 17. I am not rolling it on dad, just saying curiosity can be triggered by emotions that are to over the top. The funny thing is when it came to drugs he never said don't, he just stated it was a stupid thing to do. Any number of times, in a pretty unemotional tone, he just reiterated drugs were stupid. I tried a lot of his don'ts but the funny thing was I never had any desire to do drugs. Considering I was a youth of the late 60's and between Vietnam and the college chaos of the times that is pretty amazing. My dad and mom taught us responsibility and accountability. I tried to teach those to my kids. Everything else was low keyed education. I would do it the same if I had to do it again.
I probably would not smoke in the house with my kids if I had it to do over. I smoked cigs back then and I just would not do it. I do not see pipe smoke as being as detrimental. That may be because I remember seeing cigarette smoke hanging in the living room late at night. I do not believe pipe smoke lingers nor is as thick.
Their your kids and it is up to you how to care for them, no judgement here.
My dad raised two sets of children. My sis and I were the first relay my younger brothers followed 8 and 10 years later. My dad was tough. Don't do this don't do that. He would not let us touch a candy cigarette, bubble gum cigar, there was a long list of don'ts. What he and my mom did right was give us a comfortable home life with love and moral conviction that they lived.
I think all those no's were what spurred my determination to try many things I should have left alone once I was out on my own at 17. I am not rolling it on dad, just saying curiosity can be triggered by emotions that are to over the top. The funny thing is when it came to drugs he never said don't, he just stated it was a stupid thing to do. Any number of times, in a pretty unemotional tone, he just reiterated drugs were stupid. I tried a lot of his don'ts but the funny thing was I never had any desire to do drugs. Considering I was a youth of the late 60's and between Vietnam and the college chaos of the times that is pretty amazing. My dad and mom taught us responsibility and accountability. I tried to teach those to my kids. Everything else was low keyed education. I would do it the same if I had to do it again.
I probably would not smoke in the house with my kids if I had it to do over. I smoked cigs back then and I just would not do it. I do not see pipe smoke as being as detrimental. That may be because I remember seeing cigarette smoke hanging in the living room late at night. I do not believe pipe smoke lingers nor is as thick.
Their your kids and it is up to you how to care for them, no judgement here.
I quit smoking when my kids were 1 and 5. Partially for health reasons (I became diabetic and nicotine and diabetes dont go well together) but also because I didn't want to expose my children to second hand smoke or set a bad example for them to follow. Contrary to what an earlier poster said about "vitamin N" nicotine is a systemic poison that is good for no one. if we choose to indulge ourselves at our own risk that's one thing but exposing our children to it is another
20 years later my kids are grown and out of the house and I prevailed on my wife to allow me to smoke in my home office so my rather severely oxidized pipe collection is back in use and growing again.
20 years later my kids are grown and out of the house and I prevailed on my wife to allow me to smoke in my home office so my rather severely oxidized pipe collection is back in use and growing again.
billkay: Huck and Tom? You do know they are fictional characters? Right? And, as there was no sequel we really have no idea how they turned out, what they were like in their adult years.
Nicotine vs smart phones? I am so missing the connection!
jay: Wise man you are. Now you can sit back and enjoy a wee but pleasant vice. You've earned it.
Nicotine vs smart phones? I am so missing the connection!
jay: Wise man you are. Now you can sit back and enjoy a wee but pleasant vice. You've earned it.
I have 9 yr old twin boys. I don't smoke in front of my kids. There have been a couple of times when they were really little where I might have had a pipe or cigar on the patio while they were playing in the yard, but they were to busy doing kid things to even notice. Over the years they've come to know that Daddy smokes pipes and cigars because they've seen my pipes and cigars. They've made a few comments or have even pretended to blow smoke when its really cold out and the steam from their mouths looks like smoke. The wife just gives me a dirty look. I remind the wife that they pick up stuff from old Looney Toon Cartoons, movies etc. and that its not from me. Obviously kids are impressionable, so I don't smoke in front of them and remind them that its only for adults. When smoking commercials come on they'll make comments to me, and I just tell them that smoking cigarettes is different from pipes and cigars and that cigarettes are very bad for you.
To the original poster, I think you and your wife are worrying much about nothing. Kids say and do silly things. Just teach your children right from wrong as they're growing up, and if they choose to make certain decisions as an adult then that will be their choice. You gotta lot of years before you really need to worry about your child smoking etc.
To the original poster, I think you and your wife are worrying much about nothing. Kids say and do silly things. Just teach your children right from wrong as they're growing up, and if they choose to make certain decisions as an adult then that will be their choice. You gotta lot of years before you really need to worry about your child smoking etc.
Warren hit it, toddler's emulate parents.
Mine helps daddy make his pipes, she loves to help slot the stem, she has her own corn cob mini she likes to carry when dad is out in the backyard enjoying a pipe.
She also fights bad guys, knocks monsters out with her imaginary laser pistol, force feeds her dollies multiple consequetive bottles, and pretends she's a dog . . . so?!
Mine helps daddy make his pipes, she loves to help slot the stem, she has her own corn cob mini she likes to carry when dad is out in the backyard enjoying a pipe.
She also fights bad guys, knocks monsters out with her imaginary laser pistol, force feeds her dollies multiple consequetive bottles, and pretends she's a dog . . . so?!
Yup! There's a time to let kids be kids and explore the world as they wish as long as they are not in immediate danger. In fact parents could learn a lot, or relearn, if they'd simply get down to toddler level and see the world as they see it. Try it with a clear mind and make an effort to see with brand new eyes. Later, when they have developed a bit of reasoning, is the time to start teaching life lessons.
Toddlers will blossom into their own personality with just the barest minimum of adult guidance and protection.
Toddlers will blossom into their own personality with just the barest minimum of adult guidance and protection.
Don't worry...soon our Brave New World will solve these types of parenting questions by assigning a federal bureaucrat to your home to monitor how you raise your child.
Feds Seek Home Visits, Calling Parents "Equal Partners"
http://thenewamerican.com/culture/family/item/22530-feds-seek-home-visits-calling-parents-equal-partners
Feds Seek Home Visits, Calling Parents "Equal Partners"
http://thenewamerican.com/culture/family/item/22530-feds-seek-home-visits-calling-parents-equal-partners
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