Stick with it !
Newbie myself and I'm still trying to figure things out. But here's some of my experiences
1) packing: I use the frank method. Seems to work for me. Draw on the pipe when it's empty, then pack, then draw before lighting. It should feel roughly the same. A little more resistance, but if it feels like sucking a milkshake, dump and start over. This will sound stupid, but I actually practiced just packing another pipe while smoking a bowl.
2) smoking: if it gets too hot, tamp it down a little. The tamper and gravity are my best friend ;-) another stupid thing I've done is look at the clock at the top of my iPad while I'm reading and smoking. Draw, sip, get some smoke. Look at the clock. Wait at least a minute or two before getting the next draw, sip. It helped me slow down and get in a rhythm. I know... It's dumb
I also have a cold drink around. I like dark beers or Dr.Pepper, which goes well with a vanilla aromatic like MacBaren Vanilla Cream ;-) a cold drink will help cool you're mouth and avoid the dreaded tongue burn. ( not the same as bite)
3) tobacco: I'm a cigarette smoker trying to switch, so I need the nicotine kick in the morning. Burleys seems to work best for that. Sterling tobacco will send you a free sample of their Double eagle if you send them an email. You can find how on their website. I then usually smoke Lane 1-q during the day (or similar) and an aromatic at night. My advice, buy something mainstream like Lane 1-Q or Prince Albert. Then one or two aromatics. The first year, when i smoked the pipe maybe once a week or less,I think I smoked nothing but Burley mild.
4) the pipe: I started of with a cheap "basket" pipe with no markings but the word "Czech" on it. And I still have it, carry it around and smoke out of it. But what pushed me over the edge was my wife who, on a bit of a whim, bought me a Peterson. The difference was remarkable and it's what really made me explore pipe smoking more. There is a difference in the pipes. Spend the money on one or two decent pipes. It helped me get better and I actually have less trouble now smoking my trusted little Czech. Less hot, goes out less, better flavor of the tobaccos. In the beginning, yeah it gaveme some trouble and frustrations. But I'm getting better each day.
But above everything I've learned you do what feels right to you. Experiment, stick around and don't give up. It'll come to you. If it does for a dumb#&$ like me, anyone can ;-)
And never hesitate to ask questions around here. These guys are great !