A Small Win

[troyniss]

It's been raining here in South Korea for the last few days. My wife said to me "It's impossible to smoke outside. It's raining and it's windy!" I told her "Watch me." I did manage to smoke my pipe under the eave of my apartment building but it wasn't pleasant. I came back inside and I immediately said "You know, you were right, smoking in this weather is not very fun, you should let me smoke in the outside room (Patio).

She gave me that "I really don't want you to but I love you" look; said as long as I use the fan after I smoke to blow the smell out the window and that there are no clothes drying to absorb the smell.

Small win and small compromises.

I'm going to slowly ease myself into smoking here every night until it doesn't become just "a weather thing". Mind you, I've been living in this apartment for close to 3 years now and just now have thought of this.


I'll be smoking some Ken Byron Dark Fired Cherry to initiate Phase 1.

Also, I expect some of you to chime in with the "I don't have a wife so I don't have this problem." or "I do what I want because it's my house." Add your variation of these messages. Roast me.

 

[mikethompson]

I thought the next part after "Its too rainy to smoke outside" would be "so pull up a chair in your warm dry home".

Can't fault the woman for not wanting smoke in the house though.

I do what I want because it's my house."

Well its her house too right?

 

[Magpiety]

Nice! Compromise like that is the way it goes. When we finally built our place after living in a small house, I designed my study to be a smoking room with seals around the door, separate AC, and a blower for the smoke. I fantasized about it for years while smoking in the garage during the winter lol.

 

[didimauw]

I have no roast for you....
My wife won't let me smoke inside yet....
But our next house will have a screened porch that will be my smoking area. That's my one requirement. And she's ok with that.

So your a lucky guy!

 

[olkofri]

"I don't have a wife so I don't have this problem."

I'd rather have your problem.

 

[Chasing Embers]

Also, I expect some of you to chime in with the "I don't have a wife so I don't have this problem." or "I do what I want because it's my house." Add your variation of these messages. Roast me.

I have one and she is a pipe smoker. I also had the house ten years before the wife.

 

[canucklehead]

The previous owner of our house was a cigarette smoker, and he had installed an exhaust fan in a basement room that was his TV room. He only smoked in there or the upstairs bathroom. It's right above my desk in what is now my office/den/library/weight room. It's the same as a powerful bathroom stinkfan. Vents directly outside, works great. Room doesn't stink the next morning as long as I leave it running for about 15-20 mins after I smoke. I did the outdoor smoking in the shed bit for a while, but two winters ago it was below -30° one night and I decided I had enough of that, so the next day I built a desk and made this room my personal space instead of a storage room. Since my wife noticed it didn't stink up the rest of the house she was fine with it.

 

[mortonbriar]

I love to smoke while doing the dishes, that way I feel like although I am breaking the 'no smoking in the house' rule I am also being VERY helpful, she never seems to notice when she comes home...the crazy thing is, I can walk through the house with a pipe clenched to quickly get something and she will pick up on that hours later.

 

[Dimitri]

A big win I would say!

My wife does not like the smell of any tobacco at all, so I have a nice little spot at the bottom of the garden and to be honest I enjoy my pipe more knowing that its not annoying anybody, I dont like ruffling peoples feathers!

I even find myself a little self conscious in certain close-quater outdoor public areas, like pub beer gardens, if they're a little too crowded.

 

[jpmcwjr]

"Family is compromise"- something repeated on Grantchester last night (S5, Ep2)

 

[briarbuck]

My only question is why it took you 3 years to think of it?

 

[Parsimonious Piper]

My wife tolerates this hobby, but the garage is as close to in the house as it gets until I can build a ventilated office. Nothing wrong with compromise.

 

[danimalia]

No roasting from me. Mutual respect and accommodation are important in a relationship, and she's entitled to not like smoke. Good on her for giving you a break and good on you for working with her on it and being respectful.

Personally, I smoke so much that someone who despised smoke just wouldn't be a good match for me. But depending on how special the girl was , I could see myself accommodating one who didn't like smoke, but tolerated it with limitations.

 

[PipesRock]

Nice win... communication and compromise. It is the back porch and garage for me. A mini-split AC for garage with some finishing work is a planned retirement gift to me her. We both agree it will help keep me out from underfoot.

 

[desrtrat68]

When my wife gives me a hard time I just look at her and say "THE SOONER YOU LEARN WHO'S BOSS AROUND HERE the sooner you can give me my orders dear"...cause I'M THE KING OF MY CASTLE (when she's not around).

 

[virginialover]

I never smoke where I eat, sleep or live indoors. It;s healthier for everybody.

 

[troyniss]

My only question is why it took you 3 years to think of it?

Not sure, I just turned 30 though. Is this the decade of wisdom?

 

[troyniss]

I never smoke where I eat, sleep or live indoors. It;s healthier for everybody.

I don't sleep, eat or live on my balcony, so I guess I'm safe.

 

[troyniss]

No roasting from me. Mutual respect and accommodation are important in a relationship, and she's entitled to not like smoke. Good on her for giving you a break and good on you for working with her on it and being respectful.

Personally, I smoke so much that someone who despised smoke just wouldn't be a good match for me. But depending on how special the girl was , I could see myself accommodating one who didn't like smoke, but tolerated it with limitations.

She seems receptive of it. She went out the take a smell a few hours after I was done and didn't say anything, so it's a good sign.