Could be myriad of causes for the relights, packing, tempo, tobacco, tamping. I'd start with packing the pipe. Pay careful attention at first, checking the draw and the spring of each level or tier. Is the tobacco nested with a bit of spring. I'm one of those who believes blends are sold ready to smoke. Perhaps it's the blends I smoke. Too we will smolder unevenly. When I pack I gently twist my finger a bit to nestle the blend with plenty of air space. Tight enough to feel the draw, light enough to provide for ignition.
During the smoke, if the need for tamping arises, I spin the tamper, my finger, a bit as I press gently. My personal belief is "nesting" the tobacco creates a better burn as opposed to just pressing the load down. Are you tamping the oxygen out. Tamping too tight makes it hard to keep ignition. I smoke pretty much unconsciously now. Years ago I had to pay attention so to keep the oxygen available for combustion.
To find the answer(s) you are going to have to "parse" the experience for a while. Start with the obvious, too much and too hard a tamp. Perhaps you're depriving the burn of oxygen. Then work logically though the experience and see where you might be failing to provide what a burn needs, oxygen, combustible material and heat. Using the finger to tamp means a light twisting tough with the finger. Too much pressure, too much time pressing and even the calluses won't protect my finger tips from a bit of pain.
It's easy, just takes a bit of attention and logic.