Future Plans

I think it it an outstanding and very generous gesture, Brad. Kids need grandparents to share secrets and giggle with.

Plus, they'll help keep you young.

Puppies always work -- if their dad approves.

Hi Brad
A couple of questions which might have some bearing:
You don't mention how long ago the loss was. If it was not that long ago then it may be a little early for them as they will still be working through their grief and loss. If a little time has passed, then it may be a little different.
You also don't mention whether you have discussed this with the father. How he sees it might depend on a lot of factors, including the passage of time, his own relationship with his father-in-law, etc.
A third question might be how your own family see this?
I think your gesture is a kind one, and one that comes from a big heart. I do counsel you to go slow though and make sure each step is understood and welcomed in the good spirit you offer it.
Blessings to you all in this

Mike

Sounds like you already are their grandfather

I don't know the legal situation where you are: is adoption as a grandparent a legal or quasi-legal thing? Or are you speaking about just taking on the role of a grandfather?
Certainly, the second of those would be easier.
Mike

tbradsim1:
The greatest Christmas gift is love, and it sounds like that is what you are showing to your neighbor and his daughters. As for your adoption idea, what if the daughters were to adopt (informally of course) you as their grandfather? You might meet with your neighbor and discuss this idea, let him present it to them, and then let the chips fall where they may. Either way, I believe that you have already won.
God bless you, Sir!

Well, in that case, and provided each step is sensitive, I think it's a beautiful idea. I really do hope both you and they will be blessed by this. It shows that sometimes good things can be born out of bad events.
Mike

If you feel it in you heart you should do it.

Brad, I think that this is a wonderful idea that is full of caring, compassion and love and these young girls will be blessed to have to as their paw paw.

Bradley that's a wonderful idea. I would guess though, knowing your spirit and generosity, that if you show those girls some love and attention, THEY will adopt YOU as their Paw-Paw.............. :D

GOOD neighbors are like family anyways, in my book.......... the age of the people involved determines what role they play....... ::

A young and a very young teen. They would be loved but they make the lover pay, as if it were a privilege. Not saying it can't be done.

Brad, YUP, YUP, and YUP!
And I wouldn't mind you as my grand pappy. :D

My dad lived to be 89-plus-months, and in his last 25 years or more started adopting various neighborhood kids as his surrogate grandkids. When he died, licensed to drive without glasses I like to recall, his mourners filled the rather large church sanctuary, and side chapels, many and various cohorts of his colleagues, friends, swimming buddies, etc. etc. And a number of his grandkids, who had consulted him through childhood and teenage, through courtships, marriages, divorces, career turmoil, births, family deaths, gardening and cooking dilemmas, and other aspects of life. Though his career was not teaching, he was a natural-born professor, loved to answer questions and give thoughtful and sometimes uncannily insightful advice. Brad, you are a natural-born dad and grandpa, and these girls would be fortunate and greatly helped by having you as a grandpa. Eventually, I would give them each a framed copy of that photo of you decked out in your suit (they will know that was special dress for an occasion), so they can always have it to jog their memories. Go for it, absolutely. No question. It's as much as done.