Alright guys! so this is a dilemma I've been having recently, Im old enough to smoke legally but im young enough to still live with my parents without it being weird :D They dont know i smoke a pipe and im unsure on how to tell them and let them know so i can do it more regular.The only time im able to use smoke my pipe is when they're both out and i know they wont be back for a few hours. The weather has been brilliant recently and ive been missing out on it. Any ideas on how i tell htem or should i just grow balls and tell them straight up. Thanks alot for any replies!
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First by your statement about being legal I assume your are at least 18. That being the case and you are claiming adult status, you at your earliest opportunity sit with your parents and tell them you are smoking a pipe. Your are an adult so you do not have to justify why you are smoking.
Your problem is that you are living under their roof and while you are an adult you are still subject to their rules. Now if you are claiming adult status then do so and not hide your pipe smoking, that is juvenile. You have to decide what you will do if they object, move out, stop, what ever. Once you can answer that question, you can proceed.
Your problem is that you are living under their roof and while you are an adult you are still subject to their rules. Now if you are claiming adult status then do so and not hide your pipe smoking, that is juvenile. You have to decide what you will do if they object, move out, stop, what ever. Once you can answer that question, you can proceed.
I would mention it casually..." I recently started smoking a pipe and I gotta tell you how relaxing it is" Or something similar.
It might help if your grandfather, or uncle , or someone in the family smoked a pipe. You might also let them smell the tobacco in the pouch. Most smell quite nice.
It might help if your grandfather, or uncle , or someone in the family smoked a pipe. You might also let them smell the tobacco in the pouch. Most smell quite nice.
I agree you should tell them. I like Jefff's idea of talking it up; The relaxation, contemplation, great taste and NOT INHALING. Sure as shit there will be "bad for you" statements. If, however, you play the "I'm an adult" card they may ask you to pay rent. Fair warning. My parents did. 
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You should grow up, get your own place, then you can set the rules. Live at home, live by the rules. Want to do adult vices? Grow up! Physically old enough you may be. Mature enough? Nothing you've written supports that thought. Maturity has little to do with physical age. If you are all grown up, go out on your own. I realize the younger generation wants it both ways and many parents enable such, I just don't agree with it.
You should grow up, get your own place, then you can set the rules. Live at home, live by the rules. Want to do adult vices? Grow up! Physically old enough you may be. Mature enough? Nothing you've written supports that thought. Maturity has little to do with physical age. If you are all grown up, go out on your own. I realize the younger generation wants it both ways and many parents enable such, I just don't agree with it.
I can't argue with Warrens point. If your folks put their feet down and say ..NO!.. you have to abide by that.
That doesn't mean slinking around and smoking when they aren't looking. That means either competently persuading them or finding your own place. And that can be a life changing decision.
That doesn't mean slinking around and smoking when they aren't looking. That means either competently persuading them or finding your own place. And that can be a life changing decision.
Yeah man, it all depends on your parents, really. Mine would have been delighted to know I smoked a pipe as opposed to cigarettes or dip. They love it when I come by to visit and my pipe smoke always brings them back to "the good ol' days". I agree that when you're 18 you're a man, though I guess your parents could kick you out if they don't approve, though, if ya got parents like that, I feel sorry for you. I'm pretty sure they'll approve and enjoy the aroma of your pipe. It's not like you're coming out of the closet or anything.
Edit* Sure as hell glad I didn't grow up in Warren's household.
Edit* Sure as hell glad I didn't grow up in Warren's household.
I moved out of my parents house, and moved internationally, at the age of 17, so my experiences have been different to say the least.
But what I can tell you is that you need to talk with your patents. They may put their foot down, or they may not; but you can't let that fear affect your actions. Letting fear control, or be a major factor, in your life choices is no way to live. Live with confidence. As Chris Ledoux said: "Sit tall in the saddle, hold your head up high. Let your eyes fix where the trail meets the sky. Live like you ain't afraid to die. Don't be scared boy, enjoy the ride." If your parents put their foot down, they have that right. They are adults too, living their own lives. The worst, most immature, thing you could do is react. Instead treat them with the same respect you would want to be treated with, even if you don't feel they necessarily deserve it.
But what I can tell you is that you need to talk with your patents. They may put their foot down, or they may not; but you can't let that fear affect your actions. Letting fear control, or be a major factor, in your life choices is no way to live. Live with confidence. As Chris Ledoux said: "Sit tall in the saddle, hold your head up high. Let your eyes fix where the trail meets the sky. Live like you ain't afraid to die. Don't be scared boy, enjoy the ride." If your parents put their foot down, they have that right. They are adults too, living their own lives. The worst, most immature, thing you could do is react. Instead treat them with the same respect you would want to be treated with, even if you don't feel they necessarily deserve it.
warrens post made me laugh hawky454 but i guess everyone has different views on it , no idea how my post was imature but its completely legal for me to smoke pipe tobacco's and my parents would've just "disown" me if you could say that if i told them i just didn't know how to tell them! Hawky "they love it when I come by to visit and my pipe smoke always brings them back to "the good ol' days"" I think thats so cool! :D thanks for the replies everyone!
Lee: I misread your intent on the question. As far as actually breaching the subject, only you know your parents and how they operate. However, I can tell you that trying to "argue" why you smoke, or justify your actions would never fly with my parents. Instead, when I started smoking, and when I told my parents I simply started with: well, I have recently started smoking a pipe. I know there are many arguments against smoking, and I can come up with just as many counter-arguments but what I want to know is your thoughts and opinions." Hope this helps brother. Keep it smokey.
Depends on all kinds of things. Do you plan to live with your parents while you continue your education or begin a career? If they have to live with your pipe smoking for several years to come, they have a lot to say. Is their resistance related to health, religion, or just their own non-smoking, or do you know? Have either of your parents ever smoked? I don't want the answers, but you need to clarify this in your mind. I felt compelled to move on and move out as a young guy, but I don't assume that's every person's, family's, or culture's way. Many young adults in Italy stay in their parents' home until they are into their thirties and no one feels this is peculiar or uncomfortable. Not my way. But I learned early, with my big independence ethos, that putting this on other people was very wrong. If you live at your parents' home, observe their rules, and if they don't want you to smoke, smoke your pipe elsewhere. This will help you decide how much independence you need and want, and you can act according based on this and many, many other things. Meantime, if you smoke while they're out, they will soon sniff it out and ask you to explain. As a beginner, don't start any fires. Don't smoke in bed. Buy a small fire extinguisher; no kidding.
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I say break it out away from the house while you're with family, friends, etc... on a special day (family reunion, sporting event, camping trip, etc...). Just light it up, let everyone figure it out for themselves; 'oh my god, is he smoking a pipe?'. It will help buffer your mother's and father's disappointment. They'll laugh it off and then you can answer their questions in the morning at breakfast. That will be it. You'll be out of the pipe smoker's closet. Don't tell em', show em', but have others around you. I always had a friend over when I had to tell my parents something that they didn't really want to hear.
Let me rephrase my response: If you are old enough to make the decision to smoke and unable to to solve the parent problem without coaching and still live at home, you should refrain from any vices until you can support yourself and your chosen vice. You will soon discover that actions and decisions have consequences.
The simple fact that you feel the necessity ask total strangers for advice says much about your current ability to make serious decisions.
The simple fact that you feel the necessity ask total strangers for advice says much about your current ability to make serious decisions.
You could always just try casually pulling out you me pipe and smoking it while outside with them. But not knowing your parents there is really no way for any of us to know how they might react. I will say that sneaking around with it does not seem like a good idea. Eventually they will figure it out. But regardless of how you decide to handle it I wish you good luck. And welcome to the club.
I just noticed I seem to have sort of copied mothernatures answer to some degree. I drug around too long typing my response and didn't see his before I sent my post. I actually like the gathering idea better than mine.
Playing games with family is the worst, it turns you into a habitual liar and makes you paranoid.
Move out, work two jobs and pay for your own education, find out what it's like without them. In an absolute sense, you're going to have to learn how to operate without them eventually, and they might be even more scared of that idea than you are. Get it over with sooner than later and you'll all be much better off.
Move out, work two jobs and pay for your own education, find out what it's like without them. In an absolute sense, you're going to have to learn how to operate without them eventually, and they might be even more scared of that idea than you are. Get it over with sooner than later and you'll all be much better off.
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