Pipe Smoking and My Girlfriend

[adamthepiper]

okay, so I started smoking a pipe my freshman year of college, but had to stop because I transferred back home. However, I am looking to get back into it. When I came home I didn't have the places to go and smoke like I did at college because of parents, etc. Another big problem was my girlfriend. She isn't the biggest fan of any sort of tobacco products and since I'm wanting to start back I didn't know what to do. Should I hide it from her or ask her to see if it's alright?

 

[dervis]

Hiding implies you are doing something wrong. Nothing wrong with pipe smoking. And asking for permission? I have no idea how to respond to that my friend.

 

[uberam3rica]

Hiding implies you are doing something wrong.

I don't know your girlfriend, but if she is like most women, she won't be to happy about you hiding things from her. Odds are if you hide it and she finds out, there will be hell to pay.

And asking for permission? I have no idea how to respond to that my friend.

I would just tell her its something you enjoy. It's your body, and if you want to smoke, then you're gonna smoke.

 

[bigboi]

Be honest and discuss it. That is my policy with my wife. She didn't want me to start smoking, after discussion and seeing that it was something I used to relax she doesn't mind much

 

[adamthepiper]

I worded that last part wrong. I'm not asking permission, but more just asking her opinion. I am about 90% positive she won't agree with it, but like mikephillips said...I might have to re-train her! haha

 

[adamthepiper]

And the more I think about it the more I see hiding it to be a bad idea! haha

 

[uberam3rica]

And the more I think about it the more I see hiding it to be a bad idea!

Yeah women don't like it when we hide things from them.

 

[sebastian]

I would not hide anything from her, and I dont feel I should have to seek permission either. If these are your only options, my recommendation is simple....run.

 

[puffy]

If she is against you smoking now she will probably be even more so if you have kids.Relationships in my opinion only work if they are based on trust.I don't think it's a good to try to hide it from hide it from her.

 

[peckinpahhombre]

Don't hide it from her. If she doesn't like it, then dump her . . . unless she is really hot, in which case you should lie through your teeth

 

[hfearly]

Don't hide. She gotta take you as the individual that you are. That's the only way to a healthy relationship. Regardless of whether its you being a pipe smoker or you saving whales, if she can't support it, it's not your fault. Tough words, but the truth isn't all sugar mountain.

 

[igloo]

Be up front and do not cave in .Trust is the key that opens the door to individuality .

 

[mustanggt]

Yeah women don't like it when we hide things from them.
No they certainly don't. That's why they want to carry "them" in their purse for us. :wink:

 

[mustanggt]

Now that the joke is over. Seriously, do not ever be with someone that will not accept you for who you are and what you stand for. You want to smoke a pipe do it. If she can't accept that then move on. Don't let her use anything as a weapon to get you to stop. It's not just about the smoking it is about standing up for yourself and not letting her wear the pants. I have alot of passion for this little talk because that was me 35 years ago and it took me alot of years to learn that.

 

[mustanggt]

To tack on one more thought. It's better to be respected than loved. You can not have love without respect.

 

[trailspike48]

You'll have to re-train her, forget about pipe smoking, or switch girlfriends, and I can only recommend two of those options.
Well said Mike, my sentiments exactly. Of course I'm just an old dysfunctionsal man.

 

[Perique]

Many fish in the sea, my friend.

 

[rockrat]

I'm with Mike Phillips and all else here. You are a grown man. Do not hide who you are , or what you enjoy. Smoking a pipe used to be something that men did, and was not questioned. We live in much different times now. Not saying these "modern" ways are better. I don't feel like any of today's popular, or "mainstream" ways are even close to being right, moral or just. But, that is a discussion for another day. My deep down feeling is, smoke your pipe and enjoy it! Don't apologize, ask permission or forgiveness for it. You are a man. Always conduct yourself as one. Take care.

 

[zonomo]

Invite her to partake. She may like it.

 

[judcole]

Be open and be courteous. And certainly invite her to try, after she gets used to you doing it.