Hey man, you're a lot like myself, or how I was. I've been smoking very occasionally for a few years, and more regularly the last year. I have always sucked at packing a good bowl and finally the past several bowls have been a better success for me. I finally scrapped all the 'methods' and just started simply filling my bowl and packing as I go, following no pattern or method. I started packing harder than I ever have and its smoking better for me. I've had a number of bowls where i've only relit 3 times or something.
I also started a thread on my frustrations with not packing right and having to relight 15 times a bowl, but you've been at this a week (judging by your post) and I started my frustration thread after a year of more regular pipe smoking, you can imagine my frustrations after that long. Some people here told me some valuable things, like how I was basically defeating the purpose of pipe smoking by getting frustrated. I finally started relaxing a bit more, and I started using a zippo style lighter, which I found a lot more enjoyable relighting than a match.
So I wouldn't get too upset man, you've been at this barely a week, it took me years and I'm still not a pro, but the thing is I don't have to be, I get more enjoyment out of smoking now than ever. Give yourself some time, you'll get it. Some people say pack it so that the draw is almost like sucking through a straw, I find that works pretty good.
I have never had a single light bowl or even a double light, and I don't care much anymore. It will come man.